This is what goes through my head when I come on any platform to share my message, my work, and what I’ve learned that I know will help women. 

I feel like if I speak from my soul and my truth that it will be too much. It’s a bit too edgy. That you might think I’m too much or maybe going a little too far. 

I feel it might trigger some women because what I believe is so far from society's norm. But as I said in my last blog and I’ll say it again. When did society's norm ever support women? Support women in a way where they can step into their power and be fully themselves without being judged on every level. It just doesn’t. 

This is what holds me back in my business. Holds me back from speaking about what I know to be true.

I know or believe some people, men & women, might think it's too extreme. I believe the opposite. That when women mute themselves to make others comfortable or to reduce friction and confrontation. Thats fucking...

Is It Selfish To Put Yourself First

Nowadays I try to always put myself first. But sometimes the old me sneaks through. 

You might be familiar with the version. I was a top-notch people pleaser, always there to make everyone happy, and to always make sure to avoid all confrontations. I would change into the type of person I thought the person I was with wanted me to be. I always made sure everyone around me was comfortable and happy. Does this sound familiar to you? Are you or have you been in the past a people pleaser?

This was a survival technique I learned from having to avoid the abusive behavior I experienced for most of my life. I lived like this for over 20 years but even after I removed myself from the situation it was such a habit, being in survival mode, that it took me a few more years to break free. 

What happens to a person who does everything to please others, always takes care of others, and puts herself last?

They lose...

Want To Get Unstuck In Life? This Is The First Step

I know this sounds like a big promise to someone that has been stuck for a long time or someone who might have been trying to get unstuck for a while. However, I’ve noticed a lot of stuck people including myself forget this one first step that I think is the most important.

What do you want? What do you want to experience in your life? 

You might say, “I don’t know, that’s why I’m stuck”

Well of course I’m going to show you how to figure this out but before I start I want to talk about why it’s important to know this first. 

You know how when you go on an important road trip and you're starting from one place and you want to get to another? Say you’re driving from NY and you're headed to LA. You have a starting point and then a destination. 

Well, in order to get somewhere in our life we need the same thing. We don’t need...

We all know that we need to allow ourselves to rest in order to put our best version of ourselves into the world but very few of us actually do this.

This is just one of the pressures we put on ourselves, to do, do, do, and then do more. 

We also don’t allow ourselves any time to feel the negative feelings that are just a part of life. 

You see there is this pressure to always be positive, to raise our vibration, to be a bright ray of sunshine in order to attract this same energy into our lives. 

The truth is, it’s not just okay for you to be not okay, but it’s also necessary to be not okay in order for us to process these feelings.

If we mask these feelings, if we push them down and try to hold them there. They will resurface, they are still there, and you can’t positive mantra the shit out of them. 

There is a saying that Wayne Dyer said and I’m sure I’ll screw it up a bit, but here...

If you've been with me in the Soul Aligned Self Care world then you know that I'm very passionate about nutrition and using that to support and heal my body.  If you're new here then I would like to share with you this passion.  

It started in 2007 when I had a stroke and started eating a vegan diet and then in 2015 I became certified as a health coach and continued on to become certified as a culinary nutrition expert and educator and life coach.  I've managed to put all these things together into one package to help my clients put the best version of themselves into the world while feeling incredible.  I believe being mindful about what you put into your body to fuel your body is epically important.  

The one time that this was very noticeable almost instantaneously was when I was training for a triathlon. During that time period, I also went vegan and so I knew how I felt before I was vegan and after.  The difference was very noticeable. I...

What’s on the other side of your comfort zone? Magic, that's what!

So today is the spring equinox & a new moon in march of 2023. If you reading this at another time, don’t stop here because this message is a powerful message at any time.

I just think right now it's supercharged so it would be a shame not to take advantage of that.

We all know that when we step out of our comfort zone there is always magic on the other side. Even when it doesn't turn out the way we want, it always helps us grow. 

Some of us also know that when we look at what we fear doing, it's almost always the one thing we need to do.

Except for skydiving, that's a hard no for me. All I visualize with that is me vomiting and passing out mid-air which it not growth. 

Being in our comfort zone can be good sometimes. In times to celebrate and relish in our successes.

But don’t stay there too long. Only because we can't really grow there and it's human nature...

When I was a bit younger I was an award-winning people pleaser. All I focused on was how I could make everyone else happy and I rarely focused on myself.

One of the things I noticed disappear during this time period was my connection with myself, my intuition, and my trust in myself.

These are some pretty important things to have in your life so I was pretty unhappy and I was totally burnt out. 

It took a major health emergency to wake me up too. 

I definitely don’t want this for you or anyone for that matter and that's why I always share what I went through and what I learned.

It took me close to a decade to reprogram myself to know in my soul that when I put myself first everyone benefits, this is a long time. But you have to remember, I spent all of my life being a people pleaser before that. Even as a child. So you know, it takes some time to reprogram. 

Why did it take so long? Well, I didn’t even really know that setting boundaries is what I...

I don’t talk a lot about food a lot when I’m talking about deep-level self care but it is an important part of self care and also about choosing yourself.

When we eat healthy, fresh, whole foods, then in turn we feel good, we have energy, and it supports our long-term health.

When we eat processed crap 0% of the time, we don’t usually feel great but also this habit will have long-term effects on your health you might not see until middle age.

To listen to the podcast version of this blog post, head over HERE. 

Let me tell you a little FACT. When you reach middle age, you don’t feel old. I mean I feel the same mentally as I did when I was younger so I kinda want my body to feel good too.

Making some really small shifts in your mindset and lifestyle will help with this. 

Some of you might not know this about me but I started off as a holistic health coach and then I got my certification in culinary nutrition...

Hello Beautiful,

It's not really about NOT being productive. It's more about not being defined by whether your productive "WORTHY" person as defined by society.

I think we're all getting sick of this definition.

I love being productive, as long as I'm being productive in the things I want to do, things I want to spend my time doing.

I want to be doing things that give me purpose and help myself and others. 

Listen to the podcast version of this blog post HERE.

Today is about learning to check in with yourself a couple of times a day and allowing yourself to stop your production line, or as I like to say, hop off of the hamster wheel.

When you get so busy doing, you fail to check in with yourself to see how you're feeling. If you feel like your soul has been sucked from your body, then heads up, it has, and this is your wake-up call to make some changes.

Now, I know, most of you will say, we have to work, and I have to pay my bills.

This is true, and I understand this as much as...

I had a thought this morning after and great night's sleep and some morning journaling and meditation that I wanted to start to shift my focus away from the Live With Purpose Series and move into Choosing You.

How to step into YOUR power and start choosing yourself on the daily so you can show up in your life as the best version of yourself.

Today I’ll talk about how you can start doing this every day.

You know I encourage you to take have big goals and dreams but to take small consistent steps and keep moving forward.

Well, this is no different. Choosing to support yourself, your health, your beliefs, and your energy, and protecting that like your life depends on it is the DEEPEST level of self-care.

It’s creating and maintaining those powerful healthy boundaries and treating yourself with the same level of support you give your partner, your kids, and your best friend.

I recently saw a creator on Tik Tok (No, I don’t know her name but obviously, she is awesome,...