Tina 00:00:00 One of the things that's become really apparent to me, living in a rural area where there's not a lot of people is how important community is. So today I am going to be joined by Sharon Glover, and we are talking about community and self-care. Now, Sharon is a business strategist and a leadership coach who brings refreshing perspective to performance, both in the workplace and through her Ace framework. There's no hype with her, no fluff, just practical insights for meaningful growth. So let's get into today's episode. You are listening to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast. I'm your host, Tina Stinson, and I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world. Now I'm laying it all out. The deep level self-care practices and mindset shifts that I needed that kept me healthy, balanced and thriving. Join me in this intimate space as we explore healing, resilience, and the soul's journey to alignment. This is where real conversations about deep level self-care happen. Let's get into it. Hey Sharon, welcome to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast.
Tina 00:01:23 I'm so happy to have you on today. To get started, could you just tell me a little bit about yourself and what you're doing in the world?
Sheronde 00:01:31 Yes. Thank you so much for asking that. So I'm Sharon Glover. I like to say that I am a strategy consultant, a tennis enthusiast. I'll tell you why that's important later. Okay. And, Yeah, I work with and the owner of the business practitioner, and I work mostly with female leaders and their teams on strategy development, organizational change, basically helping them to like, evolve their inner champion, right? So they win in business, in life. And, this is something that is important to me. I've created this framework called as it stands for Aim, change it, sell, aim with intention, change courageously and it sell confidently. And so.
Tina 00:02:19 I like.
Sheronde 00:02:19 That pretty much what I'm doing these days.
Tina 00:02:21 I like that a lot. And, we talked a little bit before we hopped on the podcast and you just came up with some really great ideas that, I really want to discuss with you because I feel like self-care is so important.
Tina 00:02:38 And I'm sure you know that with your clients that while they're, you know, becoming successful and coming into themselves, that they still have to remember to take care of themselves. But something that I think is really important and also something that I could use a little help with myself nowadays is creating community and self-care connection with community. And so I was wondering if you could speak on that a little bit, where we talked about connecting to the community through self-care practices. And if you could talk a little bit about that, because I just think what you said to me was just so what you wrote down was so beautiful. so can you share with the audience a little bit about self-care and community?
Sheronde 00:03:27 I absolutely can't, and if it's okay with you before we get there, I would like to just kind of make sure and hone in and make sure we're all kind of on the same page. Okay. When we think about self-care and community. So I actually grabbed a couple of definitions because I really wanted to think about it, like fully right and comprehensively.
Sheronde 00:03:49 And so here are a few things. And I would, you know, definitely love to see your take on it, but I when I look for self-care in a definition, I found several that I really liked. the first one is the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health. And so I like that. I like that the next one, the practice of taking an active role, which I really love, that title active. Right. Because that's the key. It has to be an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness. Yes. and then they added in particular during periods of stress, which I think the key here, I would like to take that part out, because when I think about self-care, I would like to see it happening before. Right? We get into periods of real deep stress. Yes, absolutely. That's very important. And so in thinking about community, I love this definition of feeling of fellowship with others as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests and goals.
Sheronde 00:04:54 So a little bit of my background, because I think that's an important way to kind of bring us into this idea of self-care and community. So I'm kind of your classic type a.
Tina 00:05:06 Way.
Sheronde 00:05:06 To, you know, type A this was the old the old run, right?
Tina 00:05:12 Yes. No. Same. But but it's still there's still those personality traits that you have. Right.
Sheronde 00:05:18 Absolutely. Type A you know, grinding on the go. Always always describe it as I was the person they say the saying said stop and smell the flower up roses. I was like, not only did I not stop to smell the roses, I did not know the roses were there.
Tina 00:05:36 Yeah.
Sheronde 00:05:37 Yeah, yeah. You see the difference? I didn't know there were any roses. And so I think about when you talk about community, which we're going to kind of have that more in-depth conversation. A think about a time when I was actually in community, right? And, is a colleague, friend, and even a client, actually, was having something at her house.
Sheronde 00:06:04 And I remember I was heading out, and I remember she kind of stopped and she looked out the door and she said, do you see that? And there was something going on, like. Like maybe it was, I don't know. Yeah. And I was like, no, I don't see that. I don't know what that is. Right? Yeah. That was when I was in that place where I couldn't take, like, those pauses. I didn't notice those things and then observe them. And I think that those are like critical pieces of what we call self-care. Right? Just being able to pause to enjoy a simple moment, like whatever was going on in the sky that day. Right. and being able to do that. And so then when we think about like, how do we bring self-care together with community? a few things happen. Type a, checking the box. Decided that I was going to write a book, and I wanted to write a book for, business women.
Sheronde 00:07:06 Right. And I wanted it to be this book that kind of shared with them the things that I was learning as I became an entrepreneur and in community, because I was collaborating right, with a colleague and a really good friend. And we were co-authoring this book, and we were sitting down and we were having a cup of tea, and we were brainstorming on what the title of this book would be. And she said, sipping tea and doing business. And I'm like, I was screaming. I literally was like, running. And like, oh my gosh, that's it, that's it. Sipping tea and doing business. A holistic journey to business success. Now I love that we're going to dig deeper, but I'm hoping that as you're listening and the others that may be listening, like all of these are like little simple ways to be in community, right? We were sipping tea, we were writing a book, we were collaborating. And so that was kind of, I think the emphasis for me when I was able to really like I say, you know, if you think about the grind your face like this, your face is in your in the grind and you kind of come up and you breathe and you realize, oh my gosh, I am so not balanced.
Sheronde 00:08:28 And at that time I had taken so many things out of my life that were important. And one of the real key things. And this is where the tennis enthusiast comes in. And I want to, share that I had stopped playing tennis Us. And for me, tennis is social. It's physical.
Tina 00:08:51 It's part of your identity.
Sheronde 00:08:52 Yeah. It's all of these things. And it's done in community because I play, I play with a team. I played on a team, I played with a group of people. I play doubles right. And so all this was about like just really coming together. But I had stopped that. And so later on I wanted to incorporate that back in. And I was like, okay, you talk about in your description, you know, this idea of ambition and tranquility. Right. Like, and how do we when I think about it, it's like, how do we tap into the things that are important to us but still be able to be visionary and ambitious, right.
Sheronde 00:09:35 Because that's important. And so I was like, what if what if I could bring these ambitious women together in community? Right. Shared interests. In a way that they could have some fun. fitness, physical, etc., but also be able to do business. Right. So I kind of created this, brand if you will. Business women love tennis.
Tina 00:10:04 Yeah, I love that.
Sheronde 00:10:06 It's just so amazing. It was just so awesome because I just realized, like I say, I do strategy, and, there's so many principles, and my Ace framework is kind of built around like this idea. I use principles from the sport of tennis. as an analogy to like strategies that you can use, like in your business and in your life. and so it was like, how cool is it to like bring a group of like ambitious women together to do this, to be in the community, to have fun and do something that they love but also be able to still network and feel ambitious because I think that's what happens, right? We.
Sheronde 00:10:44 We feel like we don't have time for this stuff. and so we have to figure out then, okay, how can we continue to balance ourselves? I was just like, one day I just realized I love tennis. Yeah, yeah, I love tennis. And I would get up, especially spring is my season, okay? And I'm like, I just want to play tennis, okay. How do I bridge that together with what I do in my life and work?
Tina 00:11:11 Yeah, exactly. And that's the question you have to ask. And a lot of people, they never really ask those questions. They just keep going. They're just they're on the hamster wheel. They have the blinders on and they keep going and going and going and going. They're like the, the Energizer bunny, right? And so you took the time to stop and ask that question. And so it's about it's about not living your life to reach some kind of an endpoint because the endpoint, once you reach that endpoint, you're like, okay, well what's next? And you just keep going.
Tina 00:11:44 It's about living your life to have the best experience on your way to that end point. And I think that that's just a small mindset shift that if a lot of us as women make that mindset shift, can just live a better life, a more balanced life, because you're filling that cup at the same time where you're you're being ambitious and you're going for what you want. And I think also like, even if, even if some of the listeners are not entrepreneurs or, or maybe they're retired or whatever, I think that, like, you still get stuck into the day to day things that you do, the day to day responsibilities or the day to day so-called societal expectations that we all have. And we get stuck in that without saying to ourselves, wait a minute. Like, where am I going to add fun in, you know? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 00:12:41 And I agree with that. And I think.
Sheronde 00:12:43 The point you make is so critical because whether you're a business or entrepreneur, a leader, you know, at home, you know, whatever that thing is, it's still important because I think as women, we do have a lot of responsibilities.
Sheronde 00:13:03 and we tend to sometimes allow those responsibilities to take, take over. Right. Which is why I like this definition. I think I shared it, it was like integrating a practice of putting yourself up front. and you even mentioned it. You know, it's not selfish to be able to. Put yourself first, right? Yeah. I would think of the analogy. I use this a lot. But you know, when you get on the plane.
Tina 00:13:34 Yeah.
Sheronde 00:13:34 Mind you. Okay? Your inclination is to save everyone around you. We need you to save yourself first.
Tina 00:13:42 Exactly. And it is. And I.
Sheronde 00:13:44 Think.
Tina 00:13:44 About. Yes. And I and I and I'm not saying that men aren't caring people, but I just feel like women are almost, like, raised to be caretakers. And so they're so they they put other others first so easily. And, and I also think a lot of women wear that as a badge, like being selfless, you know. Oh, I've done all this for all these people.
Tina 00:14:05 And they wear it as a badge. But meanwhile they're draining themselves and they're losing that connection with themselves, their connection to their joy, you know? And so I feel like I had a guest on I think her name was Doctor Tamara Beckwith. Okay. And she talked about the saucer method, which I it just, like sticks with me. And she's like, you fill your own cup first and then whatever spills over into the saucer, that's what you give everybody else. And I was like, I love that. I can't tell you how many times I brought that up since she told me that. And I think it's beautiful. Yeah. And I think it's perfect because when you take care of yourself first, it's not selfish because everyone benefits. The whole world benefits because when you show up as that version of yourself that's well rested and happy and content, then you you show up that way for everybody else. You show up that way for your kids, your partner, your business. And then that has that ripple effect.
Tina 00:15:04 You know, like the things we do are touching, you know, like at least three people and like one life that we touch. Right. So you go to the coffee shop and you smile at the person behind the counter and you say, thank you. And you know, you notice them and you, and then they're going to touch three more people, you know, the way you touch them.
Sheronde 00:15:25 Absolutely.
Tina 00:15:26 You know, so it's like it really makes a big difference. And so that's I can't emphasize that enough when it comes to people. It's like you have to take care of yourself first. It's a necessity. It's not, there's no question. But I think it's just a mindset shift that we all need to make.
Sheronde 00:15:43 And yeah.
Tina 00:15:45 I think we're on our way.
Sheronde 00:15:46 I agree with that. you said something that resonated with me because it's a part of a four principles that we talk about within this Ace framework. You talk about connect. And so the forces that I use is compete, connect, collaborate, celebrate.
Sheronde 00:16:02 Right. Okay. Heat is not me against you. Right. It's like how do you bring your best self. Right. How do you show up at your best self. And so self care is a part of that. Which is why I talk about strategic self care. Right? I do strategy and I want leaders in and women and just individuals to understand like there's a strategy self-care is a strategy. because when you do it, when you make it thinner, when you incorporate it into all of those things. It does allow you to bring yourself best self. Right. That connect is about you know, we talk about connecting and getting to know people. But the first connection is with self. That's self awareness. So when you take an opportunity to sit back and reflect and I am also reflective, right? I just think it's important we talk about these questions. But so often we don't sit with ourselves. We don't sit and ask simple important questions, key questions that we need to be asking ourselves.
Sheronde 00:17:01 What brings us joy? What are our passions? What do we enjoy doing? You know, and so when we do that and I think it's Stedman, Stedman Graham, he has a book and I went to one of his presentations. But he talked about doing what you love when you think about what you love and then creating everything around that thing.
Tina 00:17:21 Oh, I love that.
Sheronde 00:17:21 Yeah. Yeah. And so that's really important. And that I feel like that's kind of what I did. I was just like, I love tennis. How do we incorporate this? Like, how do we do more of that thing? Now? I have a lot of hobbies.
Tina 00:17:36 Yes.
Sheronde 00:17:36 Me too. That main one. Right. I'm very active. Yeah. And then we talk about collaborate. Right. Collaboration. That connection. Collaboration. That's also a way to come into community even right here. Now, like, you know, me being on your show, you know, you allowing me to come on your show, you know, we're collaborating and that's important too.
Sheronde 00:17:56 And then you have to celebrate. And I think that's a big one because I often go from thing the thing, the thing, the thing without yes, celebrate and celebration is not about the big thing. It's about the little small wins too. Like those things are super important. And I think they kind of can round out and be incorporated in this nice little self-care, you know, picture pie that we're, you know, creating for ourselves. Yeah, those things are important. So yeah, thanks for sharing that.
Tina 00:18:24 I really think I like that framework, I really do. And then the collaboration I think is, is really important because and I was talking with you a little bit before we hopped on telling you about my journey from doing like the solo podcast to starting interviews last year and how I was afraid to do it. And then I just did it and then. But I did it, like really big. Not really on purpose, but I interviewed so many people, and one of the things that I learned was very quickly, because I interviewed so many people, was that it expanded my world so much.
Tina 00:19:00 Yes. You know, and I was and it just it just, like, lit me on fire. And it inspired me and it moved me in all different directions, you know. And so I think that when we collaborate, we don't just like, we raise ourselves up, we raise the other person up, but we also like, kind of like make everything happen faster than.
Sheronde 00:19:24 Yes. Faster, easier or simpler. Yeah.
Tina 00:19:27 More fun. You know, more fun.
Sheronde 00:19:29 You know, I talk about tennis. I enjoy playing singles, but my main thing is doubles. If you know anything about tennis. You know, and it's like, it's great because y you don't have to cover the whole court. Yeah, you're covering half of the court, right? And you gotta have a partner. And you know that you have somebody that you can rely on, right? You you are in it together, your team. And even that is about like community. So I think there are so many like really simple ways.
Sheronde 00:19:57 And I want, you know, as your listeners to come in when they thinking about community. And I think this is particularly important when we think about ambitious women, because I think when we do get caught up in all of those responsibilities, all of those different things, it can be hard to find time, right? First of all, we're talking about like, oh, you want me to incorporate self-care and you want me to try to do it in community? Wait a minute. You just added two things to my task list that I am not prepared for, that I can't do right. Yeah. So I want to hopefully share some like, simple things people can do and also remind them that like it is about like the integration of. Right. And building these things in and so that's something that's really important as well.
Tina 00:20:42 Yeah I think simple ways to bring community in is I think community is also really important right now for everybody to, for a connection and support, like in the world the way it is right now, it's like kind of a scary place.
Tina 00:20:57 And I think if you like, fall back and just look at the people around you and how you can support each other and like, build each other up. It, it just it gives you, like the sense of stability and security. And I'm sure it does the same thing for the other person. So I think that looking, looking at everything you do from this perspective can really change the way you experience life. You know, just being like, all right, well, I love like I love gardening. So like, how could I include community in that. So yes, like I got involved with like a local arboretum and I do volunteer work for the local arboretum. And so then I meet other people that also like gardening and, and so and then I feel like I have another place where I can enjoy myself and also have support and community and like minded people surrounded me around.
Sheronde 00:21:54 Exactly, exactly. Yeah. And and there's so many examples of that, I think one that I share with you that like, really is kind of, you know, key for me is, a colleague that I met through some work, through a project.
Sheronde 00:22:09 also part of this idea of self-care came with my involvement with, a collaborative network of consultants where their foundation was around, you know, healing and self-care, particularly as it relates to, like, racial equity, right? And so in coming in and you're thinking about things like, like paints, like generally like we're moving too fast all the time, right? And like, how do we slow, slow things down? because we haven't been conditioned to do that. Right. It's always been like, let's let's get to where we're going. Let's do it really quickly. And so there is some beauty in a pause. And so I love to do that. And I incorporate that in pretty much everything. And so 2 or 3 things like there's several points that this will lead to that I'm wanting to share with you. so the first one is in coming into that community and getting to know other consultants. there was one colleague and I that we met, and, you know, we realized we were kind of in the same area, in terms of location.
Sheronde 00:23:09 and, you know, we started, you know, just walking. Yeah, in the morning. And so walking that you know. Yeah I enjoy walking. She enjoyed walking. We were in the same area. And so we started doing that in community. And it's been really nice because it allowed us to get to know each other outside of this business relationship. We had right to really begin to build like more of a friendship. Yeah. And get to know each other. And so that's just really nice. And walking is so calming and so peaceful. so it's a lot to that. the other thing I just wanted to share that I got out of in working with that or being a part of that particular network, I was introduced to the feelings. Well, I don't know if you're familiar with the feelings. Will you familiar with the feelings?
Tina 00:23:56 Well, I don't think so.
Sheronde 00:23:58 I have to go. I really need to because I don't know who is the actual creator of that, but it's actually like a will in its feelings, right? And it taps into like, how are you doing today? But the truth of the matter is, many times when we come into particularly, I would say in a professional environment, like we don't really ask people how they're feeling.
Tina 00:24:21 Yeah, that's so true.
Sheronde 00:24:24 And and think about it, even if we someone does, we usually just resolve ourselves. I'm okay. I'm good.
Tina 00:24:30 Yeah. No, no. Yeah. Most people aren't going to really open up and they're not really setting. Yeah.
Sheronde 00:24:36 Is will is an opportunity to allow you to open up because it literally and it's color coded. and it just has a list of, of feelings that you can tap into so that you can just take a moment and stop and pause and ask yourself, how am I feeling today? And then share that in community. And when I tell you like the way that it opened people up to get to know each other more, to be able to connect in that way because you never really know.
Tina 00:25:12 Like, no, you.
Sheronde 00:25:13 Don't with someone.
Tina 00:25:14 Right? They could be going through something.
Sheronde 00:25:17 You can be going through something. Yeah. And it was so funny because I remember the first time and in this particular network they have something called Brave Space Building that's fear.
Sheronde 00:25:29 like their framework. And the first three components of it are feelings, gratitude and intention. And so I remember doing it the first time and thinking, oh, okay, this is, this is good. and then we would come back together, we would do it again. I was like, oh, we do this every time.
Tina 00:25:48 Yeah, yeah, I like that, I like that.
Sheronde 00:25:51 Yeah. But you, you realize that you, you need to do it every time. I mean, I won't be showing up the same way tomorrow. Yeah. Or like.
Tina 00:25:59 Yeah, absolutely. And I, I do a similar exercise but not like in community, but I do it with my clients where I teach them, I call it take five. Okay. And it's funny because when I first start with clients, I have them do it once. But really, I'm like, you should really be doing this a couple of times a day where you just, like, slow down. Like as you said, take a pause, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and get grounded.
Tina 00:26:23 Like bring yourself back into your body and not all those places where you're headed. You know. And ask yourself the question like, how do I feel right now? What do I need? And then try to give yourself those things that you need, you know, like if you're tired, maybe like just go for like a short walk to like, release anything that you got going on in your workday or do like a short meditation or do a short breathwork session, like give yourself what you need and and just trying to get clients to do this once a day is a challenge because people don't pause. They don't they don't pause.
Sheronde 00:26:57 So I want to say this to you, and this might be something to consider because I honed in on you said not community, but I do it with my clients. So I want to share with you how I bring in community with with my clients. Okay, so one of the things that I do is very similar to that, but I do it in conjunction with them because I do believe it builds community.
Sheronde 00:27:17 And so, you know, I'm when I'm doing some, coaching or some business advising, one of the things I do is I kind of bring people into the room with a little music. and in doing that, like, it's just because I always say, I don't know what was going on in your world before you enter into this room with me. That's true. I have no idea. Yeah. What what you've been what you were going through, and it's so funny. So I give them a moment to pause, because most of the time we go into a meeting or a client setting, and it's like we jump right into it, right? we don't have to do that. Take a minute.
Tina 00:27:50 Yeah. That's. Yeah.
Sheronde 00:27:52 Grab something. We breathe together, and we affirm together. Collectively. Right. And we take some, some breaths, some deep breaths, and I invite them into movement if they feel they would like to. Which can include just some stretching. Some like stretching.
Sheronde 00:28:10 You will be amazed even early in the morning. Some light stretching. The body is like, thank you so much. I needed that.
Tina 00:28:18 Absolutely.
Sheronde 00:28:19 So it's a nice way to bring people in community. And I've done it also with group work. And I've found that it helps because one, it allows people to kind of enter into the room to take that pause, but also to kind of then center collectively.
Tina 00:28:39 Yeah, I think you do, especially when you're moving into like, like a new appointment. You do need to like center. And I do this with some clients, but not all I really like. I don't do it with all and I definitely because I do. I'm a creator of meditation and breathwork. I do breathwork sessions with people, so obviously I do that when I'm stepping into that. But I like the thought of like doing this with every client, because it really does make you become more present with what you're doing right in that moment.
Sheronde 00:29:12 It really does. And I think that's and that's really a part of it.
Sheronde 00:29:15 It does bring people into the right now because they're still on whatever that thing was that happened before I got you.
Tina 00:29:22 Yeah. And they're not completely there and.
Sheronde 00:29:24 They're not completely.
Tina 00:29:25 There. Yeah, I agree with you.
Sheronde 00:29:27 I've gotten so many thank yous and I've got particularly, you know, when you, you know and I know it might be you know, my oh it might be some resistance. Like I've had some say to me, I don't want to say, you know what she said I did, I'm trying.
Speaker 4 00:29:40 To remember how.
Sheronde 00:29:41 She put it. But basically she was saying she's like, I need it and she loves it, but it's just always that thing because she's one of those ones, like, like, you know, let's kind of get through it. But she so appreciate the fact that I allowed her to pause, so much so that she started being able to see how she could still be ambitious and create a schedule that worked for her life. The life that she was trying to build for herself.
Tina 00:30:07 Yeah, you.
Sheronde 00:30:07 Could see her and it was layered from like, just some of that thinking from, you know, as we, as we're growing up or, you know, what we've been told means that, you know, you have to do all of these things to be successful or to get results or to be ambitious, you know, but you can't do these things. Yeah. And she literally recognized and it was so interesting because we were having a conversation and she she answered her own question, like, how can I do? And then she literally figured out a schedule for herself that would work for her, that would allow her to not just be an ambitious business woman, but to also support her in terms of her other life goals. She had other life goals.
Tina 00:30:48 Yeah. You have to have some fun. I mean yeah I recently did a live on. I do work for Aurora, the Aurora app, and I recently did a live on aura and I do like a self-care practice for the week.
Tina 00:31:01 And I talked about making a life experience list, and it kind of stemmed from a podcast episode that I listened to where they were talking about the book that was written by the hospice nurse. I think it's something like the Five Regrets of the dying or something like that, that book. Okay.
Sheronde 00:31:18 And I know.
Tina 00:31:19 That. Yeah. I don't know if that's the exact name of the book, but it's something like that, and it's a pretty popular book, so it should pop up on a search. And one of them was, I wish I would have worked less and like played more like enjoyed my life more. And so my whole purpose of going into like this practice was to create this life list of just things that are going to bring happiness and joy into your life, whether it brings anything else, whether it has monetary value like friendship, community, no, just just pure joy. It could bring those other things too. But the key goal is to just put things on that list that are going to make you happy.
Tina 00:31:58 And yeah, I.
Sheronde 00:31:59 Love.
Tina 00:31:59 That. Yeah. And it was a lot of fun. And it's like an ongoing list. So like I kind of told them, you know, come up with like 25 or 50 things. And I think my last podcast episode, I talked about this, but it's like it's an ongoing list. So it's just basically like something you would keep on your notes app and then like, all right, when you get a few minutes, look at the list, like figure out like do some research. How could I bring this into my life? And so you're actually what you're doing is you're bringing yourself into that whether like you're on that journey, like like I said, it's not about the endpoint. It's not about getting that thing. You want that thing, but it's not all about that. It's about your journey on your way there and all the twists and turns that you experience and on that way, and how happy it makes you. And so it was really cool to go into it with like, all these different people that had all over the world that have all these different thought processes and ideas.
Tina 00:32:55 And it was extremely inspiring. It was like, not what I expected it was going to be. And it was really cool. But when I started out that talk, we did like a little quick, like meditation slash breathwork session because I had a wicked headache and I was like, how am I going to do this? So I was basically like, all right, everybody do this and and breathe with me because I'm going to die. And you know like and they all and we did it. And I think it was like it just like cleared the plate. It's like the, you know, the lemon sorbet in between the meals, you know, like clearing the palate.
Speaker 4 00:33:35 Yes.
Tina 00:33:36 A, a level playing field. And I just I didn't do it intentionally, but it just turned out to work out perfectly where everybody was kind of like open to the session, you know, and it it turned out really cool. So the point that you make about doing that? I think that's, like a brilliant idea to do with all my clients.
Tina 00:33:57 Not just the ones who, you know, I feel like I do it with the clients who I meet through, like my breathwork and meditation sessions. You know what I mean? Like, and I. Yes. And I shouldn't make that assumption.
Sheronde 00:34:11 Yeah. Because what I'm finding is, people need it and we don't always know what we need.
Tina 00:34:19 That's right.
Sheronde 00:34:21 I had, one young lady and it was I think we were doing this little exercise and it was a six word kind of describe, describe your life or describe something that's going on, you know, and six words or less. And it was something about, I've learned the power of a pause. It was something along those lines. And it just really and she said, hey, you know, and and it it came from her entering into these sessions where she was allowed to do that, because I think it's almost like we have to give people permission in our in the book. Yeah, we we're giving women permission to take the pause because nobody said to them, you can, it's okay to sit down.
Sheronde 00:35:02 And one of my favorite like simple practices and tools. not necessarily in community, but just in general. It's just being able to just take a couple of deep breaths because you can do it almost anywhere and at almost any time.
Tina 00:35:17 I would say that to people.
Sheronde 00:35:19 You say that to people.
Speaker 5 00:35:20 Yeah. Yeah.
Sheronde 00:35:22 Like you're like, we're walking around holding our breath.
Speaker 6 00:35:25 And don't even realize.
Speaker 5 00:35:26 It.
Tina 00:35:26 Yes, we are actually. We're all like, Yeah.
Speaker 5 00:35:30 So I think the other thing that came from.
Sheronde 00:35:32 Me is and I would encourage and like the listeners who maybe like, of course, if they're listening to this, they've gotten to a point. If they're listening to the show, they've gotten.
Speaker 6 00:35:41 To the point where they understand.
Sheronde 00:35:42 Self-care is important. I can appreciate it, but there are people out there that may just be like, oh, you know, I don't know. And so I think.
Speaker 5 00:35:51 Reminding.
Sheronde 00:35:51 Yourself like there is this level of evolution right. And so I talk about like evolving the inner champion.
Sheronde 00:36:01 And I'll use it here because I hadn't thought about it. But that's part of the inner champion. Like okay let's bring the champion out. And part of what that champion needs is like some rest and restoration and maybe some realignment. You know all of those different things. Some re-energizing. Yeah. And so.
Speaker 5 00:36:17 Take an.
Sheronde 00:36:17 Opportunity to maybe sit with yourself and ask yourself some, some new questions. Because a lot of times, a lot of times we're operating on, you know, like who we used to be or, you know, we're we're becoming there's a level of being. And then there's also a level of becoming. And so, you know be open to the growth that supports self-care is where I'm trying to get at. and it's just again so many ways I think about and I hadn't thought about this in a while, but like I shared with you, I didn't. I didn't know that there were roses. So I couldn't appreciate things like, really, nature, like tennis was the only thing that I was doing that got me outside.
Sheronde 00:36:57 Now I love a park. Oh my gosh, like I love the beach and things like that, but like just a park. Yeah. Remember there's a park about ten minutes away from me. It's just such a hidden gem. And I went to that park one day. I spent the whole day at the park, and when I tell you I had my laptop, I had my skates in the back. I had my bike. Yeah. And I spent the whole day there like I was able to. And again, this is for the ambitious that like, how am I going to get this in? I have so much to do. You can still get things done and incorporate those things that you love. But I think it starts with the thing that you said asking that question, what brings me joy? You have to figure that out first.
Tina 00:37:43 Yeah, you have to figure out. And I feel like when people feel stuck and when they feel like really stagnant in their life, there's a really there's a really simple reason for that.
Tina 00:37:55 And it's because they're just not aligned with what they're doing every day. And it's very simple to it's a really simple to say, but it's not easy to get out of it, especially when you've been doing it for so long. So giving the people the gift that you've been giving them by teaching them how to pause, you know, like, even if that's the only thing they ever get, it's such a huge gift if they never had it before because it's it's the way we're supposed to function. Honestly. Yeah.
Sheronde 00:38:22 It was so interesting. I think about the title, like Soul Aligned. Right. And I had I think it was just a simple post. I had posted something on LinkedIn, and one of the young ladies that I had been doing some work with, you know, come in at, like, I love how you how does she put it? I love how you include the soul work in your coaching style. And that was that resonated so much for me. Like, it just felt so special that, you know, it's being received.
Sheronde 00:38:50 It's very appreciated. And I remember one of the things that I think I shared as just a toll, is you might want to just check it right time thinking, you know, career woman, business woman, whatever. But a lot of times we're maybe in the office, we're in front of a computer. It's like maybe just, you know, work outside of the office for a day or two. Yeah. You know, those type of things that you can do. And I share with her, too. It's like, what about, some co-working? and I reminded her that even co-working, you don't have to physically go somewhere you can do virtual co-working. I have a mastermind group of we're CEOs, and we would do that. We would schedule time and come together and literally jump on a zoom. Turn on the camera and say, hey, how are you doing? This is what I'm working. Oh, this is what I'm working on. This is what I'm working on. Turn off the camera and go to work.
Tina 00:39:47 Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
Sheronde 00:39:49 It's nice community, right? In community.
Tina 00:39:52 It's nice to be able to do that. Yeah, it's really nice to change up the scenery. And I do that as an entrepreneur that works from home. Like, yeah, it gets kind of boring. So like in the summer I go out on the deck and I love doing that. Or if I'm just having a day where I'm like, tired or just not feeling like myself, I just take my laptop and I go sit on the couch and I, like, cuddle up in some blankets and I do my work on the couch. And so it's like just making those small changes to accommodate to the way I feel. You know, it's like, yes. Or just like closing my schedule for an afternoon. Like if I'm having a tough week, like just close it, like just just do it.
Sheronde 00:40:31 I'm glad you bring that up, because that's an act of self-care, too, that people don't think that they can to do right like you.
Sheronde 00:40:40 I just like to remind people you have. You have choice. Yeah, you have choices.
Tina 00:40:44 We have a lot of choices. They might be hard choices, but there's a choice.
Sheronde 00:40:48 There's a choice, and there are things you can do. So I love that you brought that up, that, hey, you know, you close the calendar. you know, I do that. I dedicate, like, Mondays. You know, I don't usually do, like, appointments and things like that. Fridays. It started out it was like I would work from Fridays till about 2:00, and then I was like, nope, we're doing 12:00. And then I was just like, no, no Fridays at all. And but then I've come back depending on maybe I have a project, maybe I need two Fridays, but I am not. You're not going to pretty much find me working at three in the evening, four in the evening, on a Friday. no. I've realized I've gotten to enough with myself to realize, like, ran at three that 4:00.
Tina 00:41:32 Same. I'm so done at 4:00.
Sheronde 00:41:36 Everything's gone.
Tina 00:41:37 Yeah, I just. I closed my schedule at three, I think.
Sheronde 00:41:41 And there's nothing left.
Tina 00:41:42 Yeah, but I like in the summer I make it later because it's still light out. But like in the winter when it's dark at four, if I have an appointment for. Am I showing up the way I should show up for my client? No I'm not. So I closed my schedule because I realized that I want to be 100% for my clients, and at 4 or 430 I am not 100%. So I have one day where I keep my schedule open late and the other day is I close it at three and my schedule is closed on Fridays. And it used to be closed Mondays too, but I opened up Mondays and my clients love Mondays, so I left Monday open. So yes. But like like as the the as we go into like summer. I might close Mondays again. Like so it's like you have all these choices.
Tina 00:42:28 Like I changed my schedule to match with the sunlight, you know, because.
Sheronde 00:42:34 Yes, I mean, I tell people like, spring is my season. I'm a whole different person.
Tina 00:42:39 Yeah. It's like it's it's you really have to honor that. And when you start honoring yourself, you. Yeah, you, like, do better in the moments where you show up.
Sheronde 00:42:49 Exactly. Exactly. Yeah, I love that. And that's a part of self-care, too. And I, I just kind of want to speak to maybe like those women that maybe like, in leadership positions, you know, or with a lot of female leaders and like I say, entrepreneur CEOs. And there are simple ways that that can be incorporated to help, like build team. Right. And one of the things is, you know, a lot of times, you know, when you're in like, let's say corporate or professional spaces, you know, you think about team building. One of the terms we use is actually community building because this is a little it's different, right? Because community I like that terminology like the fellowship.
Sheronde 00:43:28 Right. Because to me and then that that sense of connectedness This that we talked about. It's not just I'm with a group of people. Yeah, right. And we're trying to figure out, like, how we can work together and be collaborative. But no, it's like the connection point is the key to me that actually allows for the community side of it. Would you agree with that? Yeah. Yeah.
Tina 00:43:48 I there's got to be a connection. You know.
Sheronde 00:43:50 It has to be a connection. Yeah. And so, you know, I was I had a really fun project. We were working with the group of leaders and they were all coming from different, in this instance, I think they're all coming. Okay. I'm thinking of two different ones, actually. But one was coming from like, different organizations, but they were working collaboratively together and then one was a part of the same org. No. Yes. What part of the same organization. But, you know, I, we came in and, you know, I, as the facilitator, you know, just created like these self-care stations.
Sheronde 00:44:27 We called them. And it was just so cool because it was just an opportunity to allow them for like maybe 15 or 20 minutes to engage in these stations. And the stations were simple things like, I think there was a stretch in station. We had a little gratitude station where there were just little cars, and then there was a station where, you know, you had like some coloring, and it was just so beautiful. And I remember at one point in time the group collectively had come together and they were like talking because we were doing some strategy and they were like talking about the future organization and just coloring.
Tina 00:45:02 And yeah.
Sheronde 00:45:03 It was just it was so lovely to see. And so I think it's a reminder, I think one, if you model, you know, model like the idea of self-care and remind people but also be willing to kind of think, I guess a little bit outside of the box if this is not the norm for you and like, how can you create like kind of spaces that support self-care and well-being? I remember once, I was meeting with, with a client and we just decided we were trying to come up with a place to, to meet, and then we just decided we were going to meet in the park.
Sheronde 00:45:42 Yeah. It was just so lovely.
Tina 00:45:44 Yeah. I would love to do. I would love to do client meetings in a park or something like that.
Sheronde 00:45:49 So lovely. Like we were just all sitting there, just so relaxed, doing business, getting things done. Super productive. We were in the park.
Tina 00:46:00 Yeah. That's nice. And see what's better than that? What's better than working in the park?
Sheronde 00:46:04 What is better than that? Yeah, it's all local, so. Yeah, but it was. It was great. Yeah, it'd be great. So again, I just kind of want to emphasize this idea of how you can create self care. I think in some of the titles that I share with you, cultivating calm, right. How you do that. Because a lot of times in, like in these workspaces, it's so people are overwhelmed. And you may not even know it because they're not saying that to you.
Tina 00:46:31 No they're not going to. I don't think anyone's going to say that.
Sheronde 00:46:33 Nobody's going to tell you I'm overwhelmed. It's too much to do. Yeah. So you can do simple things like bring people together. And when you convene, take out a feelings wheel, or just check in with people, you know, do an icebreaker, ask people what's going on.
Tina 00:46:47 Right. I like the coloring idea. I think that really Halloween.
Sheronde 00:46:51 Oh my gosh. Because some people's like I learned since I was ten. Yes.
Tina 00:46:56 I love coloring, and I think that it's it's, it's very therapeutic. I feel like every meeting should involve coloring from.
Sheronde 00:47:03 Yeah.
Tina 00:47:05 That's it. Every meeting from this point forward involves coloring in some way, some way. And then there'll be no arguments anymore.
Sheronde 00:47:13 Everybody will be exactly like, how do you how do you argue when you're covered? Like, you just. It's almost impossible.
Tina 00:47:19 I think yeah, I think we need to get in touch with all the topics.
Sheronde 00:47:22 Can you imagine, like a simple, like the supervisor, leader, CEO or whatever.
Sheronde 00:47:28 Just all of a sudden, like, people show up to work and they're coloring books in the break room or coloring books and they're at their desk. Can you imagine?
Tina 00:47:37 I mean, that's the kind of place that's.
Sheronde 00:47:40 Yeah. Oh my goodness.
Tina 00:47:42 If I, if I had employees in my business and when I do, that's the kind of shit that's going to be going on. That's what's going to be happening. It's going to be all about fun.
Sheronde 00:47:53 Coloring book. I need to take a break, please.
Tina 00:47:55 Yes. Yeah. It's not this isn't too serious. Like that's not.
Sheronde 00:47:59 Exactly.
Tina 00:48:00 Let's not be too serious.
Sheronde 00:48:01 Yes. And just also to like what we're doing right now. Laughter.
Tina 00:48:07 Yeah. What makes you laugh? I always talk about that. Like what makes you laugh. Just do that. Like. Yes. Like there are times when I sit on like TikTok and I always, I know that like, I have a little problem with TikTok, like, I just have a little problem, and I know that.
Tina 00:48:23 Okay? Yeah, my kids make fun of me, and and I know I have a problem, so I, I time myself when I go on TikTok, but when I sit there on TikTok and I'm laughing like I've, I'm convinced that some of the people on TikTok are way funnier than any top tier comedian. There's such funny people on TikTok. I sit there and I'm laughing so hard I got tears streaming down my face.
Sheronde 00:48:47 My take between the creators and the comments.
Tina 00:48:50 The comments, the comments section. Everybody's a comedian and they're all good at it. Like, seriously. And so like, I'm like, how can this be bad? This is way better than watching TV. Like, I this is not bad. I'm laughing. So. So anyway,
Sheronde 00:49:07 You know, you can create something around it. What it reminded me of, and I have no idea. Sometimes I say this is loosely related. I don't even think this is loosely related, but somehow it came to it came to me.
Sheronde 00:49:17 So I was just thinking, one of the things that I love to do for myself, just as a part of my self-care is at some point during the day. At first it was in the morning, then it became the evening. And I think it's right now. I think it's mostly I round out my evening is I do puzzles because I'm a I'm a game girl like I love I like all things games, all that. And so I enjoy doing I start off with the mini crossword. And then I'll, I was really into Wordle for a while until I. Yeah. Until I found out about connections. Yes. Connections is up. Oh my gosh. Because you know Wordle you, you're guessing because you have to really put that thinking on how do these four things.
Tina 00:50:01 Yeah I.
Sheronde 00:50:03 Have it.
Tina 00:50:03 Coming I love connections.
Sheronde 00:50:05 But even that can be done in community because, you know, when you think of community, we think of coming together. And I think of a friend of mine and she does with a friend of hers.
Sheronde 00:50:13 They they do their words, they do their, their games together. And so they share like, okay, this was my you know, this was my score for today. Or I got it in three guesses versus two guesses, you know. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, you know, don't limit yourself when you think about how you can practice self-care in community. Because to me that's still, you know, hey this is something I love to do. This is something you love to do and like. And then you add the little competition to it right. Yeah. Like oh yeah. Oh you got it in three.
Tina 00:50:41 I always share it with my daughter. Like I'm always like yeah. And I don't always do it like it's very random. She's probably like, that was random. Like, you know, it's not like I do it every day, but I always share it with my daughter. But yeah, there's so many ways to do that. yeah. Yeah. As we come to a close, can you share with everybody? And then I have one last question for you after this, but can you share how people can connect with you? What's where do you hang out? What's the best place where they can reach?
Sheronde 00:51:08 Yes.
Sheronde 00:51:09 Yeah. So I would say definitely find me on LinkedIn. Okay. My main place and it's under my name, Sharon Glover. S h e r o n d e Glover. And of course you can check out my website which is Sharon glover.com.
Tina 00:51:26 Okay. And those were those will all be in the show notes. Okay. As as a last little fun question. Okay. Can you share? and I do this for for myself and for the guests. But I also do this for the people who come onto my show. Can you share one thing that you want to bring into the world, to share with people, like a project you want to work on or something that you want to do in the future? Can you think of something that you would like to bring into the world?
Sheronde 00:51:56 Okay. so just in general business or.
Tina 00:52:01 It could be business. It could be whatever. Like, it could be a business thing that you want to do.
Sheronde 00:52:04 So I was sharing this with you earlier, and I'm.
Sheronde 00:52:07 I'm pretty excited about it. but I'm starting this video series where I'm talking to women. helping them to, helping other women. Right. Think about how they can ace it. And, you know, again, that's the acronym I use. It's aim with intention change courageously and it sell, with confidence. Okay. And, so I'm doing this video series called Ace your way.
Tina 00:52:31 Ace your way. Okay.
Sheronde 00:52:32 Ace your way. Oh.
Tina 00:52:34 I like.
Sheronde 00:52:34 That. And so I'm talking to women and asking them to share their stories of just how they're winning. Because the goal is like, I want to I want you to evolve your inner champion and and and win, like in business, in life. And again, it goes back to like this, this love I have around tennis. You know, aces is a tennis term, right?
Speaker 7 00:52:54 Yeah.
Sheronde 00:52:54 You know you're ace. You're winning.
Tina 00:52:56 I like that, I like that I didn't connect that at first, but.
Speaker 7 00:52:59 That's cool.
Sheronde 00:53:00 At the end of the day we.
Sheronde 00:53:01 Who doesn't want to win. Right. But and winning. What does that look like for you. What is success. How do you define it. How do you win? But not just in your work, in business, etc. but how do you win in life? Yeah, that's.
Tina 00:53:16 A really.
Sheronde 00:53:16 Good point. The idea of high performance and strategy with personal growth, which includes self-care, strategic self-care.
Tina 00:53:26 Yeah, beautiful I love that. That's great. And when you finish that, you'll have to reach out to me and let me know.
Sheronde 00:53:32 Yes, and I will share those. Share those of that series with you for sure. I have enjoyed it so much. I want to thank you for allowing me to come on and just, you know, just share some of my process and journey into this idea of, like, self-care and in alignment. Right.
Tina 00:53:51 Yeah. Thank you so.
Sheronde 00:53:52 Much. And what it looks like for me on this journey that I've been on and allowing me to just kind of continue to share it with other, other women.
Tina 00:54:01 Yeah. Thank you for coming on and sharing your wisdom. And it was a pleasure to have you here. And let's stay connected.
Sheronde 00:54:08 Yes. For sure. Thank you.
Tina 00:54:10 Thank you.
