Let Your Freak Flag Fly: Embracing Your Quirks as Superpowers

Let Your Freak Flag Fly: Embracing Your Quirks as Superpowers

As I start to write this, I wonder how many of you know that the title, Let Your Freak Flag Fly, is a song from the Movie Shrek.

If you knew then you’re my type of person. If you didn’t, you’re still my type of person. 

This is something a lot of people don’t know about me that might be weird. The music I listen to. If you looked at all the songs inside of my Apple account, you might think it belongs to 10 different people. That's because it kind of started that way. I used to share this account with all three of my kids when they were kids, so the music is a cornucopia of every genre known to mankind.

From gangster rap to what I call screamer music, to musical theater. I have it all and I love it. The level that the music my kids listened to influenced me is huge and vice versa. I love all types of music and it all relates to different feelings and time periods in my life. I love this about music. 

I love the profound effect music has on our lives and the amazing healing benefits it brings to us. 

That's where this title comes from. I have the song on my playlist and when it comes on it brings me back to a time when me and the kids would sing these songs together during our immense amount of time we spent in the car driving. Car concerts. Who else had many car concerts?

My son Michael loved Shrek the most and sang all the songs the loudest. All my kids can sing by the way…really well. We’ve had some amazing performances in the car. 

My son, and all my kids are all amazing and all weird, in all the most amazing ways and I love how they all step into their weirdness with 100% confidence in just being the type of weird they are. 

I absolutely love this about them because when I was their age, I was always afraid to show all the weird side of myself. Now, I realize, as an adult, how this is exactly what we always need to do. This is our purpose. 

If you think about it, the odds of us being born and living in this time are amazing. We are meant to be here. But an important part of that is, being here as our authentically weird selves. 

That is our purpose of being here. When we show up as ourselves, 100% of the time, all of ourselves, all of the weird parts. Then we end up being around all the people we are meant to be with who are our type of weird. We end up doing the things we are meant to be doing in the world. We progress forward and expand and learn all the right things because we are being true to ourselves, and we are in the right place at the right time. 

If we feel lost, I believe that we are not being our true selves. We are not being honest in the way we show up in the world. 

Now, I’m not trying to shame anyone. We all do this at some time in our lives. It’s hard to put yourself out there as yourself. It’s a basic human need to be accepted and one of our fears as a human is to be not connected or ostracized by society. These fears are real. 

Also, from the time we are young we are told to be quiet, color inside the lines, follow the rules, don’t go against the grain and go with the flow. Blah Blah Blah. 

Now I know better. 

This is why I’ve always been impressed with my kids. They just show up as their weird selves and they don’t give a flying fluff. Can I just say, I’ve never been prouder. 

It is always good to see your kids doing better and knowing better than you. Isn’t that what we all want for our kids..better?

So today I want to share a few questions with you that you can answer to see if you’re showing up as yourself and then I want to encourage you to have the courage to start showing up as you. All the quirky little bits of you and to shift your mindset to knowing that these are your superpowers. 

These superpowers help you get unstuck, they help you surround yourself with like-minded souls, they help you lower stress and anxiety levels because let’s face it, it’s easier to be yourself all the time. It’s less work to be honest with yourself and others. 

When you’re in alignment with who you truly are, your life flows, you flow, you shine!

Here are the questions:

Do you find yourself adjusting how you act around certain people so you will be more accepted and maybe not upset someone?

Do you soften, adjust or mute your personality around certain people because you know they don’t agree with you or you're afraid of how they will judge or think of you if you show up fully?

Think of the people you do this around and try to start showing up authentically more and more every time you're with them. You might be pleasantly surprised. They might be doing the same thing with you and then when you decide to show up fully, this then gives them permission to show up too. This will deepen your connection with them and improve the relationship. 

If they don’t welcome the true you then maybe they weren't meant to be in your path. 

I don’t know about you, but I want people in my life who truly love and accept me as I am. 

Along with you contemplating the questions above I want you to make a list of some of the weird quirks you have that you don’t always share with others in your life and ask the question, how would it feel to always show up as myself? How would this feel? How would my life change for the better if I just did this? 

The last step is, Let Your Freak Flag Fly! Put on your cape and let the world see your superpowers!

You’re meant to be in this world exactly as you are. 

Lots of love and care,

Xo, T

P.S. Did you know that I have a community for Soul Aligned Self Care? We take part in all kinds of fun self-care and self-love practices so that you can reduce stress and anxiety and live more into your purpose, in your state of flow. 

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