Tina 00:00:00 Hello everyone. As promised, I am back and I am doing a new podcast series called The Spring Reset and part one. It's going to be a three part series and part one is today, and we're talking about resetting the mind. So this spring reset is about resetting the mind, resetting the body, and resetting the soul. And so today we're going to dive into resetting the mind. Let's get into it. You're listening to the Soul Online Self-care podcast. I'm your host Tina Stinson. And I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world. Now I'm laying it all out. The deep level self-care practices and mindset shifts that I needed that kept me healthy, balanced, and thriving. Join me in this intimate space as we explore healing, resilience and the soul's journey to alignment. This is where real conversations about deep level self-care happen. Let's get into it. Hello everyone! Welcome back to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast. And if you're new here, welcome. I'm so happy to have you.
Tina 00:01:22 I really appreciate your time that you guys spend with me each week. And this week I am starting a new series. It's going to be a three part series about, spring reset. Okay, so every year I do a spring reset for my clients. This is usually a private program. so I thought I would talk a little bit about this program and what we do on the inside and just give you guys a little bit of, action steps that you guys can take to do this whole reset on your own if you'd like to. And the first part is about resetting the mind. So the whole series is reset the mind, the body and the soul. And so we are going to talk about decluttering, which is one of my favorite topic. And it's not like the type of decluttering you're thinking, although I find decluttering the space so incredibly nourishing, I don't know, I love decluttering, I love going through stuff. I don't love doing it all the time, but I don't know certain times of the year.
Tina 00:02:25 So at the beginning of February, I started this whole closet project. And so I have really, really big closets, and one of them has all the stuff that my kids had when in their bedrooms when they went to college, because when they went to college, I moved away from the home that we were living in. And so we packed everything up, and it's been just sitting in the closet for, I don't know how long. I feel like it's been at least six years. Maybe it's been eight, I don't know. And so yeah, it's been eight. I think it's been like eight. And so I just recently went through that closet. It was an enormous job, you know, that required a lot of stuff. And the first time when I started really getting into decluttering years ago, it one of the things about decluttering physical space that I think is kind of cool, that kind of I shifted into using this for your mental space is that, you know, when I cleaned out that closet, I had certain things that I, you know, I couldn't do anything with, so I threw them away.
Tina 00:03:33 There are certain things I wanted to save that were really important to me. And then there were certain things that I could sell, and there are certain things that I can give away. So I had like all these little buckets that I put everything in. And as you go through all the stuff, you reorganize, you put things in these buckets and then you do what you need to do. You go to the dump, you go to the thrift store, You go, you know, whatever you need to do. and then Reebok's the things that you know, you want to save and, you know, label and organize it. So hopefully you don't have to do it again. Right. And so when I do like a mental declutter, I use a tool that I use with, all my, all my clients, that are looking to do this and also in inside a lot of my programs and workshops and, different programs that I've done over the years where I call it ditch, delegate do.
Tina 00:04:26 So it's like, what can you ditch, what can you delegate, and what do you have to do? And this isn't like a black and white thing. Like sometimes you could ditch half a task, delegate half of it, or you could split it up into threes. You could ditch, delegate and do it all like so. It's about being really digging deep and being creative. And when you begin to look at some of the things that you can do to create space in your life. So this doesn't just declutter. This also creates, this mental space. It reduces the mental load when you do this kind of work. And so there's so many different ways that you can declutter the mind. I could probably do just ten podcasts on this one topic, but I'm going to kind of like move through it. Right. And I, you know, I started doing that closet work in like February. February is a really tough month where I live. It's very everything's iced over. Sometimes you can't even walk outside.
Tina 00:05:22 It's just it's rough. So I was like, why not do this? Because I'm not going to do it in the summer when I'm into my garden, I'm like, I can't wait to get outside every day and the spring and the summer to work on gardening tasks. That's just my favorite thing to do. So it is a good time for like February is a good time for me to do, like decluttering of, physical space. But right now we're coming on to the spring equinox, and I'm very excited about that. And it's a time for me. It's it's this is like my new year. This is when I do all all of my, you know, I start implementing all the plans and things I want to experience this year. It's implementation time. It's time to like, step into it. So I feel like spring is the perfect time to kind of like, hit that reset button on your mind and, you know, like create the space for new opportunities, new ideas to come in.
Tina 00:06:17 So just as we declutter our homes, like I was just talking about that physical space, we can declutter our minds to create mental clarity, like ease. And as I said, that creates room for growth, that creates room for new ideas, new opportunities. It just makes this space and it creates a flow, lets you step into that flow. Mental clutter like overwhelm, negative thoughts, unnecessary distractions. They can weigh us down and keep us so stuck and sometimes we don't even realize it until we get rid of it. And I'll share some different perspectives of things that I have cleared that have been like, like mind blowing to me. Like something so simple it can create such a positive, energy and space so that better things can come in. So with, with a few like very intentional steps that you can really clear a ton of mental chaos. And we're also going to talk about resetting your mindset today to invite more joy, more beauty flow. I love the word flow because it's about reducing all the friction.
Tina 00:07:28 So all these good energies can like flow so things can flow into your life. Things can flow out. We want to just have that space so we can experience our lives. and it's also about like adding little things in to create beauty and comfort in your life. these things are important. So it's not about living in this like blank slate state where everything is very, like virgin, you know, it's about. It's a it's about clearing all the clutter that doesn't serve us. And then maybe adding a few things in that make us feel comfortable and happy and joyful, but leaving the space for new opportunities, new ideas, new things to come into our life. All right. So let's get into I'm going to give you very specific ways that you could do this. Let's get into it. So decluttering the mental space. a lot of our mental clutter comes from the things that we expose ourselves to. So whether it's negative news, toxic relationships, or just an overload of information, it's about starting to identify what's draining your energy and causing that friction because we're all different.
Tina 00:08:42 So what necessarily what what drains me isn't going to necessarily drain you. Okay. So this is very specific, but I'm going to share some things that you could focus on. So the first thing to do is kind of do an audit. It's like a it's a it's it's a energy audit so to speak. So I want you to write out all the things that you consume daily, like look at everything so you can look at your social media, the news if you even listen to the news right. Conversations, email, music, what we read, the people that are around us. Right. Look at every little thing. Ask yourself, right, does this add value to my life or does it drain me? Does this make me feel like I'm expanding? Or does this make me feel like it's holding me back and weighing me down? How do you feel when you're exposed to these things? a really good example that I use all the time is social media can be very interesting because you could follow a person that, so say it's your best friend, right? Your, your best friends, a social media influencer, right? And you follow her.
Tina 00:09:47 You want to support her. You want to like, like all her posts. You want to do all of it. But what her message is isn't necessarily your message. And maybe you don't like it. Maybe it triggers you. Maybe there's something about it that makes you feel negative, right? Maybe she's a beauty influencer and you, you know, don't like to hold so much value on just beauty on the outside. Right? And so maybe something about it triggers you, but you want to support her, right? Well, you can just unfollow that person like it's allowed. It doesn't mean you love your best friend even less. Or I mean, doesn't mean you love your best friend less. It's just not exposing yourself to something that you don't like, okay? And then find a different way to support that person. Okay. usually if you unfollow someone, it's like they're not notified, you know what I mean? And so it's not about hurting that person's feeling. It's not about disagreeing with them.
Tina 00:10:45 It's just it's not vibing with you. And so like, people will refuse to like, do something like that because they think it's going to hurt someone else's feeling. So, they continue to hurt themselves, which, which makes no sense to me because the the more that you do this work for yourself, this is a form of self-care, the better you are. You can show up for that person in a better way. You could deepen the relationship with that person. Okay. And so another, another, example that I use is after I got divorced, I was still friends on Facebook with like my ex-husband's like family and some of his friends and stuff like that. So I was like seeing everything, and I didn't think it was harmful at all. You know, I felt like I needed to, like, stay in the loop of things for my children and stuff like that. but then it became somewhat negative, like some of the people in his family were very negative towards me and my children.
Tina 00:11:45 And so, I basically was like, all right, guys, see you later. I'm, I'm opting out and I just blocked all of them, like, I, you know, unfriended them or whatever you do on Facebook. I'm not on Facebook anymore. but it was it was incredible because I wasn't exposing myself to that every day. And even though I didn't want to hang out with those people, I didn't want to do anything with those people. It was still a loss that me and my children experience, like a whole family of people that we used to see on a regular basis that we weren't seeing anymore. But remaining friends with them on Facebook was almost like just a reminder of how this was not a part of my life anymore. And it was very negative, and I didn't realize how negative it was until I removed it and I wasn't seeing it. And you could say this about an ex like, why don't follow your ex on Facebook, don't follow your ex anywhere, just unfollow them.
Tina 00:12:44 You don't need to be mean. You don't need to say anything. You don't need to like really. You like do anything physically. Just unfollow. Opt out of seeing that every day. And I'm telling you, it changes your energy like so that that energy that you have to use every time you see a picture and you think, oh, you know, they're doing that, they're having more fun than me, or they're having things are better for them. That is, that energy is sucking. That's sucking your energy. That's an energy vampire to you and you're allowing it. Okay. And so this is about really like taking your energy back and exposing it to things that are going to build you up and make you better, not the things that aren't. So, like, look at everything, all the emails you receive. Are you benefiting from that like daily email that you get from whatever store. Know are you going to like you don't want to like, miss out on the sales or whatever? I don't think you should worry about that.
Tina 00:13:48 I think you should, like, unfollow it. You don't need that email in your inbox clogging things up, taking your energy away every day. You have to delete how many emails, 1 or 2 emails from the same store that you get. You're not going to miss anything. Just go to the website when you need something. Okay, a lot of times those ads, they just make us overspend money that we probably shouldn't be spending anyway, right? Just buy the things that you love when you need them, you know? so it's like really looking at those emails now, another thing that I thought was kind of surprising how much it cleared my energy was I used to sell real estate, sold real estate for 18 years. And, you know, once I retired from real estate, you know, you you have to keep your records for like three years, I think legally in the state of New York. And so I held on to all that shit for such a long time. And then one day I was just like, I don't know if it was like year five or whatever.
Tina 00:14:42 I'm like, why do I have all this stuff in my inbox? So I had all these folders in my inbox. I had all these contacts of people I'm never going to talk to ever again. And so, you know, I was starting a new business that was completely not connected to real estate. So like, how can I just clear this out, just delete all those folders, get rid of all that stuff. I deleted all the contacts of the people I'm never going to talk to again. I don't need this. And it was so it cleared so much energy for my new business. It was like I was. I was like I was all in even more, you know, if that makes sense. So it's like I knew I was all in to my new business. But like, once I let go of all that other energy that was there, even though I wasn't like looking at any of those files or anything, they were just there. I saw them every time I looked at my email files, every time I opened my phone and looked for a contact, I saw all of the old, you know, real estate contacts that I had and so like getting rid of all that just created so much space for new opportunities, new people, new experiences to come into my life.
Tina 00:15:49 So that's what I'm talking about when I say audit your inputs. So, you know, choose the news that you watch if you're gonna if you're gonna watch the news, like I would suggest not watching the news, I feel like there's nothing that good that really comes out of it. I believe, reading news sometimes is really good because you're not being exposed to all that shock value that they're trying to expose you to, to get more people to watch their show. You know, that that's how they increase their ratings. But like a lot of times, we can control the things that we read. We could go to the the resources that we want to expose ourselves to. And then we could read it. And it's not like this bombardment of like the visual of the breaking news. And this is happening and and it's the same thing every day. That's what I say to people. If you pay attention to the news, you're getting that breaking news that this terrible thing happened every day for like a week or two, or however long until the next bad thing happens.
Tina 00:16:55 And so, you know, choose how you, take in the news and do it the way you want to do it. Maybe do it once a week. You don't need it every day. Trust me, if something really, really bad happens, you're going to find out about it. You're not going to miss out. You're not going to, like, have to catch up on anything. But I feel like 90% of the news is the same every day. They're talking about the same shit over and over and over and again, you know, and if there's nothing bad to talk about, they'll pick something bad from last year and call it an anniversary show or something like that. Right. So it's it's all about ratings. So choose what you expose yourself to your music. What are you listening to? Right? Is it positive? Is it negative? Words are spells. The things that we say, sing, repeat are things that we're going to manifest into our lives. Now, I'm not saying that if you say like one bad word and something negative, I love angry music.
Tina 00:17:51 Sometimes I need angry music, right? But try to expose yourself to things that make you feel good and are positive every single day. So like, maybe have a happy playlist, right? Have a playlist that you could dance to every morning while you're getting ready, while you're making breakfast, while you're doing all the things. Maybe if you're the type of person that goes on a walk every day, maybe every once in a while, have a playlist that you listen to when you walk. Although I really, really think that walking in nature with listening to nothing but nature is so much more powerful. I love listening to music when I run and sometimes when I walk. But walking in nature with no headphones on and just listening to nature because I live in a very rural area. So you're going to hear nothing but birds. I think that it's so much more powerful than listening to positive music, so to speak, which is very powerful. If maybe if you live in a city, listening to some calming, powerful music while you walk will be nice, but always keep safety in mind.
Tina 00:18:54 So like sometimes maybe one headphone in, one headphone out, you know? So always be aware of your surroundings. Don't like completely tune out if you're walking about, especially in a city. what else we have in here? Conversation. So like people, right? So pay attention to how people affect your energy. Does this person drain me or this person make me feel happy and alive? And if if they do drain me, like, what am I going to do about it? And I'm going to get into that next? Okay. So social media news conversations, email, music, what you read. People ask yourself the question, does this add value? Does this? Does this drain me? Or does this make me feel energized? Pay attention. And then the next step is to set boundaries. So sometimes you might have to live it. Limit your exposure to negativity. You know, unfollow accounts, mute group chats. Right. Like so. Me and my kids have this family chat like a text chat.
Tina 00:19:54 And it's it's always usually positive funny stuff, but it can be a lot sometimes if we're like really chatty, you know, and everybody knows this. Everybody has one of these chat groups. If it's if it's a time in your life where you need less noise, then just turn the notifications off. Doesn't mean you love those people any less. It just means you need to tune out for a moment. Maybe you need to take a nap. Maybe you need to, like, be present for a person that you're in their physical space with. Turn it off, okay, and check it. You know, on a regular basis. You don't need to like. You don't need to like, answer every message that you get instantaneously. That's another thing I should go back to when I say audit. Audit your inputs notifications. You should just turn them all off, right? So like I keep my phone on when I want to hear from my kids, which is most of the time, the only time I turn it off is when I'm recording, like right now.
Tina 00:20:48 And in mine is actually not off right now. I'm going to turn it off. Oh no, it is off. Okay. So that it doesn't interrupt, interrupt any of my recordings. And then I usually try to turn it back on. Sometimes I forget. But anyway so you're going to set boundaries. Limit exposure to the negativity, unfollow accounts mute group chats. Set a timer for social media. I do this with TikTok. I love TikTok, pretty mostly. Most of the stuff that I see on TikTok just makes me laugh so hard. But sometimes TikTok can become overwhelming if there's like a topic like in the news or something like that, and it just gets really negative and it makes me feel very anxious. So I pay attention to the things that I'm seeing. And if my algorithm gets all messed up or political in any way, I automatically just, oh, the only thing I'll watch is like garden videos and dog or cat videos, like animal videos. That's the only thing I give any attention to.
Tina 00:21:47 Like I'll like it, comment on it, and then immediately my algorithm goes back to the silly shit that I want to say, right? So it's like, be very intentional about your energy, okay? It's like one of your most precious resources, along with your time, and the time and energy is connected. So when we clear all of this, this clutter out of our space, our mental space, we create more space for ourselves. We even create some time when we do this, like we give ourselves more time. We we're not. We're not being bombarded with notifications when not constantly checking our phone, when not constantly checking our emails because we're not getting notifications, we're just going to check out a few times a day. Right? And so we're saving time. I'm not going to spend three hours on TikTok, right? I'm going to set a timer. So that's what I was getting into a few minutes ago. I have to set a timer for TikTok. Otherwise like three hours will go by to feel like five minutes.
Tina 00:22:45 And I'm like, what did I just do? Like, am I going to get to the end of my life and like, have wasted ten years on TikTok? So, so it's about, you know, setting, you know, an alarm or something like that. So think about how you can start to clear out all these spaces that I talked about. So another thing to do and I love getting into this. So like when I work with my clients and I do decluttering, work with them, it's about decluttering your mind, your space and your processes. I call it processes. So it's about identifying tasks that can feel overwhelming or unnecessary or any task at all. And asking yourself, do the 3DS? Can I ditch it? Can I delegate it, or do I have to do it? Okay. And then if you have to do it, how can you make it a better experience? If it's something that you really don't like, how can you make it better? How could you add joy to it? How could you simplify it? Right? And so it's about going through every task and asking yourself, how could I make this better, easier? How can I make how can I create less friction? So this is a woman I follow, Denise Stanfield Thomas.
Tina 00:23:58 Right. She has this money boot camp, right. And she talks about this a lot. She talks about decluttering and she talked about being, you know, you know, a mom to kids and being so busy with between her business and her mom, and I think she had a farm, she had a rose farm or something like that. And she talked about how she was always losing her keys or misplacing her keys and all the stuff that she needed to get out of the house quickly. And so what she did was she made everything like where she didn't even need a key for entry, like either she punched in a code or something like that, and she just made it. She just removed that one small piece of friction from her daily life, and it it just created more space for her and reduced her stress and her anxiety levels. Right. And so making these little changes can really make a big difference. So like, one of the things I do for myself that I talked about is like setting the coffee pot up so that when I get up in the morning, it just brews me a cup of coffee.
Tina 00:24:59 It just makes me so happy and making sure my dishes are clean the night before. So I don't look at that in the sink, because what that does to me, when I wake up in the morning, I have to go into the kitchen and look at the dirty dishes from the day before and then make myself coffee. And it's going to be at least, you know, 20 minutes before I have coffee, you just have to wash the dishes. It sucks the life out of me. Like it just ruins my day. Instead, I want to wake up. I want to go into the kitchen. It's clean, the coffee pots ready to go, like it's clean. I got it all set up. All I have to do is press the button. Or you might even have one that program, but I don't get up at the same time every day, so I opt to just press the button. I love doing this for myself. It makes me feel so bougie and special, right? And it's so simple.
Tina 00:25:47 It's just like one small thing. That's what I'm talking about when I say simplify your routines. How can I make this easier? So if you're cooking dinner in your kitchen and for some reason your your stove is on one side of the kitchen and then your pantry is on the other side, and that's where all your spices are, right? And now a lot of people store the spices in a drawer in the kitchen. Maybe you don't have a drawer in your kitchen to do this. Maybe you don't have the space. Maybe you need to buy one of those spice racks or whatever, whatever you need to do to get the spices closer to where you're cooking so that you're not walking back and forth, back and forth, or like going to the spice cabinet and carrying a bunch of spices back and then going back and forth when you forget one or whatever. These are the little things that suck our energy and our time. And when you remove all of those frictions and you make everything easier, then you just you reduce stress, you reduce anxiety, you create space and you create flow.
Tina 00:26:45 And it just makes your life move a little easier, like having your maybe you have to get dressed for work every day, having your clothes color coded, having the seasons separated right, having everything neat, hung up and ready to go. It's ironed. Whatever, dry cleaned, whatever. Everything is ready to go. Right? Having your workout socks, you know, in a draw. I don't know, or having it close to your sneakers or like just having one drawer for all your workout clothes so you could just grab it and go. Maybe having packed little workout clothes and like, everything all together. Like what you need. Like your socks, your workout clothes, your sneakers and little packs like, ready to go out the door if you work out outside of the house. Maybe keeping, a set of like a bag in your car that has workout clothes and sneakers in it at all times so that if you can just like squeeze in a random workout, you can do that. Having water with you, like all these little things that you could do to make your life easier.
Tina 00:27:50 Like maybe you hate cooking dinner. So let's get into the ditch delegate du thing. Maybe you just hate cooking dinner. You just don't like doing it. So how can you ditch Delegate Du? How can you like, do the three days? So can you ditch it completely? No. We all gotta eat, right? So we're not going to ditch it completely. How can we delegate? So who else is in the household? Maybe you have a partner. Maybe you have children. Do you have young children? Do you have older children? So if you have older children, you could maybe let them be in charge of dinner one night a week, like they could do sandwiches or whatever. They could pick what they want to do. Like if you don't want your kids cooking, they could do, like I said, like sandwiches or whatever, or heat something up. That's easy to prepare. If you have small children, you could do the same thing. You could help let them plan like a dinner one night and have everything right.
Tina 00:28:46 Maybe you're going to make like, sandwiches and just have all the fixing out. Or maybe have a salad and just have all the fixings out. That's another thing. Batch cooking. So just like making a huge batch of soup and then freezing a few containers of it in the freezer for those nights when you don't feel like cooking but you still want like a home cooked meal have. That's something that a child can get ready when they come home from school or something like that. so there's different ways you could delegate it. So maybe your partner can do dinner two nights a week and, you know, you could do two nights a week and then one night is out, take out or go out. Right? So it's like, then you then you know, you're only responsible for dinner two days a week, right? I'm just counting a five day work week, so I hope that was obvious. But, you know, maybe you have a partner that likes to cook, right? And they want it.
Tina 00:29:37 They'll do, like, four nights. And then you could do, you know, a night or two here or there, and then you could go out or you can get takeout on the way home, whatever. Like there's so many different ways that you can kind of like space this out and make it work for you, right? so that's about ditch delegate and do like that. You could do that with laundry. You could do that. Say you're a caretaker for a parent like ditch delegate do. You can't ditch that, obviously. How can you delegate? Can you hire outside help for even if it's one day a week, even if it's just four hours, so that you can have some space for yourself? do you have other family members that could step up and do some work? Do you have friends that. Does that family member have friends that can help out, even if it's just coming over once a week to check in? You know, having, you know, somebody else maybe walk a pet if there's a pet involved, like, you know, just how can you delegate? And then if you have to do, how can you make it a better experience for you and the other person both? How can you make it easier for yourself? Are there some services that you could use? Are there, can you like make it easier on yourself to not always have to provide home cooked meals for this person and maybe just get takeout? quite a bit, you know, having fun with the other person, maybe going out sometime, if that's possible.
Tina 00:31:05 So it's just like, how can you make this better? How could you just make this better for yourself? So it's about taking all those those things in our lives and just simplifying as making it as easy as possible. You know, it's it's like you're going to take the dog for a walk. So have a pair of slip on shoes at the door, a light coat, the leash, the poop bags have everything right there, like so. All you do is slip your foots in feet in the in the shoes, throw a little jacket on, put the leash on and you go for a walk. You have everything you need right there. Instead of having the leash in one place trying to find a pair of shoes, you know, where's the poop bags? Oh my god, like all that stuff. Where's my keys? Like, have everything in one spot and then just go out and do it. And how can you make it more fun? I don't know, maybe meet up with somebody else and walk your dog together, maybe add that to your daily steps, like I'm going to go for a walk.
Tina 00:32:03 Me and my dog, I'm going to do this together. We're going to get our our 10,000 steps and, don't walk your dog 10,000 steps if your dog's been, fairly inactive, just don't go out one day and walk 10,000 steps. If your dog's not used to it, just ease them into it. Just like we have to get eased into an exercise. So do dogs. So don't do that to your dog. Okay. So I hope that that really helps. It's quite it can be quite, a lot to look at all these things. And when I'm working with clients and doing this work with them, what I like about it is, you know, it's about more about being creative, and my job is more about just pointing the things out that can be unseen, like when we have a habit and when we've been doing things a certain way for a certain amount of time, we just don't see it anymore. You know? We just don't see how we can make things easier, you know? And so, you know, I'm more of a guide when I'm working with people and doing this work.
Tina 00:33:04 So here are a couple of journal prompts that you could use to help with this. Okay. The first one what is one thing I'm consuming mentally or emotionally that no longer serves me? Okay, now when you're doing this with the, you know, the social media, the emails, whatever the people, I think the thing you have to pay attention to most is how it feels in your body. So does it feel expansive? Does your chest feel like it's opening, or do your shoulders shrink down and you feel negative and you automatically feel drained and tired? Pay attention to how it makes your body feel. And that's the real signal to whether you need to make some changes with that activity or that exposure, that whatever you're being exposed to. and, you know, then test it out. Like find one thing. So that's the journal prompt is what's one thing that you're consuming that no longer serves you and ditch it. Delegate it. And if you have to do it, how can you make it better? Easier? with less friction? Okay, now the next general prompt is how can I create more space in my day for peace and calm? Now just look at all the different areas and how can you add more peace into your day? Like, one of my favorite things to do when I wake up in the morning is to, get my coffee and then come back to bed and have my coffee in bed because I have this big picture window that I sit in front of, and I could just look outside and watch the birds and watch the sunrise hang out with my dog.
Tina 00:34:34 And I read sometimes, and I just love it. And it adds so much joy to my day, and I will not change it for anything like unless I find something better, right? So how? How can you add more peace and calm into your day? Now I want to just get in very quickly to resetting your mindset, which is also about resetting the mind. Okay, so once you've cleared all that clutter out and it's time to reset your mindset. So a growth mindset focuses on what's possible, right? It doesn't look at your like circumstances and get all like Debbie Downer about it. It's like it focuses on the possibilities. It focuses on learning, expand expanding, and it focuses on positivity. So it's about seeing challenges as opportunities or lessons and and then believing in your ability to grow from them. So here are a few ways that you can reset your mindset when you might be stuck in that like heavy Debbie Downer phase. Okay, so I think the most important thing is to start reframing negative thoughts and also stopping those negative thought loops.
Tina 00:35:42 So the first and I think the hardest step is just being aware of them because we subconsciously do this. So when you see a negative thought popping into your head or you're running negative, things that you think might happen. You have some kind of a thought loop going. A negative thought loop in your head. just stop it right there. And I and I like using a phrase. And a friend of mine taught me this. Her name was Christine Clifton, and she's also a coach. And she said, cancel, clear, delete. And I like that because it just sticks in my head. So as soon as something starts coming into my mind that's super negative, I'm like, cancel, clear, delete. And you could go through the process of asking yourself, is this necessarily true? And if it's not, then why am I focusing on it? Like you only have that present moment, why manifest something negative to come in, right? So stop the negative thoughts. Stock stop. My God, I can't talk the negative thought loop okay.
Tina 00:36:42 And so change it to something positive right. So just either change that circumstance to a positive or pick the lesson, pick the positive note from that to move on in a positive way, or just bring up something completely different and positive and try to focus on that for at least a minute or so, you know, so you could focus on gratitude in that moment, you know, bring something up. You're grateful for a person. Your love is easy to, for me, like, the best way to shift my energy from that negative thought loop is to bring up somebody that I love. It's always like my kids and picture their face and their smile, and it automatically makes it changes my energy. It raises my vibration. It gets me out of that negative thought loop. So use what works for you. Whether it's your dog, your cat, being in nature, whatever you need to think about to change that thought, that thought loop, that negativity, to step out of that energy, do it in that moment, but have like a little catchphrase, like you could just say stop.
Tina 00:37:42 Or you could say reverse, reverse, reverse, or you could use the one that my friend taught me cancel, clear, delete. I love that one. It just like rolls off the tongue. Right? So that's a very positive way to handle a negative thought loop or any kind of negative thoughts that come into your mind. The next thing is to practice gratitude, like I just talked about. So you could start or end your day with gratitude. find something that just works for you. And it's not really about just writing three things you're grateful for every day. It's about really feeling into it. Because if you're not feeling into the feeling of gratitude, you're really not going to get the benefits of the gratitude practice. I would say I'd rather you just picked one thing to focus on and just feel into it, than to write down ten things you're grateful for and to start, just like drawing things out and writing the same thing every day. You know, my dog, my kids, my home, my health, whatever you're grateful for.
Tina 00:38:41 So I like the practice. This is why I like this practice, because it's so easy to do so at the end of the day before bed, you know, just come up, come up with one thing you're grateful for that happened that day. And so it kind of makes you really, like, focus on your day and pick out something that was positive. And it also makes you think of something different every single day that you can be grateful for, even if it's just so small. Like I had a phone conversation with an old friend, I, let me say I got to have coffee and bend this morning and watch the sunrise. I got to go for a long walk with my dog today. I got to read part of my book. I got, all the birds are back. That's something that I am so excited about. I went to New York City for a couple days, and I came home and like, all the birds are back. So you go outside and you can hear them all singing, and it just makes me feel like spring is here, even though it's kind of chilly out.
Tina 00:39:42 Okay, so practice that gratitude. Figure out a way that works for you. now the next thing can be part of your gratitude practice. practice. But it's about setting an intention every single day. So you could do this in the morning. I think this is something that was done for The Miracle Morning, which is a book, which is a great book. You should read it if you haven't. I'm not sure. I think it is, though, but it's like today you could just wake up every day and be like, today is going to be a great day. That's it. Just put your feet on the ground. Today is going to be a great day. I think that was the practice from that book. or you could say today I'm going to focus on having fun. That's my intention for today. Today I'm going to focus on getting my work done and going outside into nature. Right. What's your intention today? I'm going to rest. Maybe you need to rest. Maybe you need to go inward.
Tina 00:40:37 You know, today I'm going to focus on getting my meditation. And that's that's the only goal that you have okay. So set the intention. So these those are three different ways that you can really reset your mindset. Okay? Like you're the setting of the intention is you're focusing on growth, the doing, like moving into something, bringing an experience into your life that you want to experience that day. The gratitude is just reminding us how much we are surrounded, how much positivity and abundance and love and joy and everything that surrounds us, and being grateful for it, big or small, right? And reframing the negative thoughts is about really just training yourself not to focus on the negative all the time. We have our brains have like a negative bias that we're meant to focus on those things that might be a danger to us. That's just a way we're made. And so you have to be intentional not to get stuck in some of those negativity loops. Sometimes it could be very easy, especially when you're being bombarded with things, you know, in the media everywhere, that are going to like make you focus on the negative, okay? It brings your energy down.
Tina 00:41:51 It brings your vibration down. It's it just it doesn't serve you. It sucks your energy. Okay. So now if you're decluttering all those things you're exposing yourself to, then it's going to be easier for you to reset your mindset and really focus on those positive things that you want to bring into your everyday life. Okay, so here's some journal prompts that you could use. Or, you know, consider what's one limiting belief that you're ready to let go of. Maybe you have something that continuously loops in your head a story like a negative thought loop. just making the statement that you're ready to let go of that and trying to come up with some things that you can focus on when that, that negative thing or that negative limiting belief comes up, just come up with something that, you know, cancel or delete, you know. So maybe let's go with like an easy one that, a lot of people think of like they might look in the mirror, they might not like what they see in the mirror.
Tina 00:42:47 So they might say, oh my God, when did you get so fat? Oh my God, look how old you are! Oh my God, look at all the gray hair. Like, look at all those wrinkles. Instead of that, you look in the mirror and be like, I love you. You're the queen. Like, we're gonna have a great day today. Like, say positive things to yourself. Say the things that you would say to your best friend if they were beating themselves up. So start to, like, make those shifts now. All right. So next, what would my life look like if I fully embraced a positive growth mindset? What would it look like if everything that you know stemmed from your mind was more positive than more negative than negative? So think about that. What what things might change? Because if you really think about this journal prompt and you really go deep into it about what will change, it's like it gives you hints of what those limiting beliefs might be, those limiting belief, those thoughts that because, as I said, awareness is the hardest part.
Tina 00:43:44 just being aware of those thoughts. So like if you are going to look at your life and say, if I fully embraced a positive growth mindset, what would change? That's those are the little clues that you're going to get to where those those limiting beliefs are, those those mindset shifts that need to be made. Now, the last step for this part of the reset is adding back joy, beauty and comfort. So now that you've cleared all the clutter and your reset and your mindset, it's time to intentionally add the things that bring you joy, comfort, beauty. It's about creating a life that feels like aligned and inflow and nourishing. Okay, it's about bringing those little things into your life that make a big difference. So to get started, some of the things that you could do is create like a joy list. Write down activities, people, experiences that kind of light you up and make you feel energized, and then start adding those into your everyday life. Right? So maybe you love reading, but you feel like I never have time to read.
Tina 00:44:44 But we all have time to read, right? We all do. We just have to make the time. So start small with five minutes. Keep the book someplace accessible to you. Like if you take a break at work, read on your break. Even if it's just two pages, you're going to finish the book at some point instead of never starting it. Right? So, the next thing is to surround yourself with beauty. So add elements of beauty into your space. Fresh flowers, artwork from people that maybe you even know, or maybe just local people because you've gone to like different, like craft shows or something like that. Like add that back in, soothing music, just like put some light music on in the background. I do this all the time. I go to YouTube and I'll have like the little scene on there. Some people like the fireplace. I like finding like the different scenes. Like today I need the beach. It's two wintery. I'm going to have the beach with some like light jazz music in the background and put it down.
Tina 00:45:39 I put it down really low so it's just like background music and it just adds just like level of relaxation and comfort. Sometimes I need complete silence. Like when I first started work this morning, I put on some music and it was actually just making me feel tense, making me feel like I couldn't think straight. Right? So I just turned it off. Sometimes I need silence, so just surround yourself with those things that make you feel just a little hint. Better just a little bit better. Prioritize comfort. Make yourself comfortable. Identified what makes you feel safe. Cozy. Comfortable. Like blankets. Like get some luxurious blankets. A calming morning routine like I was talking about. I'm walking nature like, what's gonna make you just feel so, like, cozy and bougie and special. Do that for yourself. and then the last thing is, don't add too much back in. We don't want to, like, clutter everything up again, right? So we don't want to, like, create more friction.
Tina 00:46:40 We just want to add a touch to something that will bring you joy and happiness, you know? So like, say you like, I cleaned out the closet I talked about at the beginning. I cleaned out that whole closet. And then, yeah, I'm going to put some of that stuff back in there. But I also wanted to have all my clothes in one space, like, seasonally. So usually I put my winter clothes away and then I have to go dig them out and hang them back up and they're all wrinkled and blah, blah, blah, whatever. I have to switch them out. I wanted all the clothes back in the closet, so I did. I added those back in so that I have everything in one place, which just makes it feel so much better. But it wasn't like too much. I didn't like add as much as I removed. I just added back something in that was going to make my life easier having it in one spot, but I didn't say, oh, what else can I stick in here? You know, I want to leave space for some of those new, things that want to come into my life.
Tina 00:47:37 Some new clothes. So don't add too much, you know. Just make it just this, like a nice touch. Like a nice added energy boost, you know, of positivity. So another some more journal prompts that you can think about. what brings me the most joy and how can I incorporate more of it into my life? So say like, you're like this huge art fan, but you can't, like, afford to buy, like really, really expensive art, then start going to like some of the art craft fairs. They're all over the place and buy some stuff from some new artists that you love. And they're they're still going to cost some money, but they're not going to be as expensive as, like a famous artist or something like that. So figure out ways that you could, you know, bring stuff into your life that brings you joy, even if it's something that's hard for you to attain. another question you could ask yourself is, what does a beautiful, comfortable life look like to you.
Tina 00:48:37 So you could, like, start to finish, like, like write a whole thing about, like, if your life was the most perfect, beautiful life, what would it look like? Like when you woke up in the morning, what would you experience? What would you be wearing? What? What is your bedding like? What are you eating for breakfast? What do you what kind of exercise are you doing? What is your workday look like? Like just write it all out and then pick little things from that, experience that you just created and start adding them into your life. It doesn't have to be perfect. It doesn't have to be 100% exactly how you want it. Just start somewhere. Because if you never do anything, then nothing changes. So I love that quote. If nothing changes, then nothing changes. And so you have to make these little shifts in order to change the way you experience your life. So resetting your mind is a really, really powerful way, to create space and growth.
Tina 00:49:32 Decluttering is magical. All those things that I talked about are magical. it helps you simplify. It makes you get more intentional about the things that you want to be there, the things that you want to add back in, what matters most to you. and you could start your spring, like, feeling really refreshed and energized in a positive energy. So remember, this is this is kind of a journey. It takes time. It's not like a one time I'm going to do everything all at once. Fix this. So take one small step at a time and just see how everything feels as you move forward. And just be easy with yourself, okay? There's no reason to be mean. There's no reason to like, make yourself uncomfortable. This is about being more comfortable. Now, if you want to like dive deeper into this, then you could. I'll put a link in the show notes so that if you wanted to do a private spring reset with me, you could do that. We're going to be starting really soon.
Tina 00:50:29 Like, I'm going to start as early as the spring equinox, and then I'll be. This is only going to be a few spaces available for this. So if you're really interested in doing this kind of work, then just reach out immediately. the link that I'll share with you is just it's going to be a link for a very short 15 minute phone call to see to give you all the details, the cost and everything like that, and to see if it's the right thing for you at this time. Right. So if you're interested in going deeper and doing this work with me, definitely set up a call. but remember, once again, if this is a journey, take it one step at a time. You could do this and you could get a lot of you could create a lot of positive changes and momentum for yourself this spring to have a fantastic fun. I don't know, beautiful experience this year. Okay, guys, until next week when we're going to go into resetting the body.
Tina 00:51:28 I love you. I hope you have a fabulous weekend. Okay. Bye.
