Tina 00:00:00 This past Friday, we had a full moon and inside of the soul aligned Self-care insiders, which is the Patreon group that I have that not only helps support soul aligned self-care, but also the podcast. And every two weeks we do moon journaling. And on Friday, it was a full moon and I did some journal prompts for the full moon. And when I sat down to do them myself, I found them so empowering and so life changing that I wanted to share them here on the podcast. Now, I don't usually share the content that I put inside of the paid Patreon, but I wanted to not only give you a peek inside of some of the things that we do, but also it just felt too good to like, keep private. So this will be your peek inside of the insiders. But also, I just wanted to share these journal prompts with you because not only do they pertain to the the the full moon that we just had. But even if there wasn't a full moon, they would be super powerful for this time period in our lives.
Tina 00:01:07 And so, without further ado, let's just get into it. You're listening to the Soul Online Self-care podcast. I'm your host, Tina Stinson, and I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world. Now I'm laying it all out. The deep level self-care practices and mindset shifts that I needed that kept me healthy, balanced, and thriving. Join me in this intimate space as we explore healing, resilience, and the soul's journey to alignment. This is where real conversations about deep level self-care happen. Let's get into it. Hey guys. Welcome back to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast. This week I am doing a special episode where I'm kind of showcasing some of the work that I do on the soul line Self-care Insider's group. But also, I just wanted to share some journal prompts that were super powerful to me when I actually sat down and did them. During the full moon, I, I was really empowered by this and it really, really helped me. So I wanted to share them with you guys.
Tina 00:02:24 So I'm just going to get right into it. So one of the reasons why I felt really empowered to come up with these, these different journal prompts was after the recent events in this country, I felt such a shift in the energy. Right. And I think I talked about this a little bit. I'm not sure where if it was on the podcast or not, but I definitely felt that a shift in the energy and it felt so similar to the shift. I felt when, we got shut down during the pandemic. So I remember I was down in Charlotte, North Carolina, when everything got shut down, including the business that my daughter had that I was working with her in. And so it was kind of like overnight we went from having this very vibrant, successful business to having absolutely nothing. And it was it was really a strange feeling. But also on top of that, I was, I remember being home in my apartment and a lot of the people that lived in the apartment complex I lived in were very young, and so they were all like, home.
Tina 00:03:37 Nobody was at work, but they were all partying, and it was just a bunch of like trunk kids everywhere. When I say kids, I'm talking like 20s, 30s, whatever. and I found it really annoying to a certain degree because they would wander onto my patio and, they were really noisy and I wasn't feeling it. I wasn't feeling like partying. so I used to go for runs. And I remember at the beginning of the pandemic, and I remember you probably remember this too, where nobody knew anything. So we were doing so many weird things, like wiping down our groceries and just not even going near anybody. I remember running down the street and just like seeing somebody and just like crossing the street to avoid them. And I remember doing things like that. But I would often go sometimes early in the morning. It was super quiet. And I remember, you know, it was springtime. And springtime in Charlotte is absolutely amazing because everything seems to flower at once. Where, as in the northeast, you have certain things, like you have the daffodils and the crocus, and then you have, you know, the next set of flowers.
Tina 00:04:43 And then there's the cherry trees and then, you know, like nothing. It doesn't all bloom at once. And it always felt like in Charlotte to me that everything was blooming at once. And it was absolutely gorgeous. And I would go running and there would be like, flower petals falling from the trees like snow. And I just remember feeling like this one time I went for a run. I just remember feeling such a shift in the energy. It was so quiet, you know, there was no traffic, no cars, no people. But everything else in nature was still moving on like the birds were doing their thing, you know, everything like the, the, you know, the trees were blooming, the flowers were blooming. Nothing was stopping on that end. And I just thought, those are the things that really like matter. You know, those are the things that are never going to stop. The sun's always going to come up, the sun's always going to set. We're always going to have the moon.
Tina 00:05:38 you know, the flowers are always going to bloom. The grass is going to grow, the trees are going. Nothing's going to stop that. And it kind of made me feel better. But then at the same time, the energy just felt so weird. I couldn't put my finger on it at all. Like, I just couldn't even, like, Like I can't. I'm even having trouble verbalizing it right now. And so this is the same energy that I felt. You know, I don't know if it was two weeks ago during the election and it just I just had the same feeling, the same energy. And so I just and I wasn't feeling really good about it once again. And I thought to myself, you know, I've shifted my life so much since, the pandemic and that business getting shut down. And I've really decided to make a change and step into something that was more aligned, a business that was super aligned with what I wanted. And I've been constantly shifting that, shifting that over the past like 4 or 5 years.
Tina 00:06:44 But the shift in the energy, I think it was like, I think it's like two weeks ago now, made me rethink this once again. You know, And I always talk about hopping off the hamster wheel of life, and I'm definitely hopped off. But I, you know, just thought that how can I even become even more aligned? Like, you start to look at things and you're like, does this really matter? What am I doing? Like, what am I doing right now? Is this going to matter in two years? You know, what really, really matters, what's really important to me. And some of the journal prompts that I'm going to share today is what helped me kind of find out how I wanted to shift in my life during this time, you know, and moving forward. So shifting focus onto what truly brings me joy, alignment, also community sharing with the community, bringing that energy into the community, while letting go of any societal normalized expectations that are outdated and don't serve us or our community anymore.
Tina 00:07:53 And I think this is a very, I think this is a shift a lot of people are feeling right now. And so I feel like these journal prompts were just so timely. Like, even though I did them for the full moon, I just think even if there wasn't a full moon, they would just be where the perfect thing to help me move forward. So when I talk about stepping off, when we go into these journal prompts, I just want to make it really clear that stepping off the hamster wheel doesn't always mean like you have to dislike fight all of societal standards. You know, those normalized societal standards, standards all at once, you know, like, it could seem overwhelming to think that way. You know, I think what you really need to do is feel yourself out and figure out what's right for you and create that possibility from that, there's certain societal standards that you might enjoy that might make you feel comfortable and safe and secure. But, there's a lot of them that might make you feel uncomfortable and pressured and stressed.
Tina 00:09:07 And so it's really about paying attention to how you feel and not I'm not telling you to like, go quit your job and run off and live in the woods and live from the earth like I'm not telling you to jump and do anything drastic. It could be nothing but a mindset shift. But what I'm telling you to do is, or asking you to think about doing, is creating that shift in your life and figuring out how you want to move forward when when everything around us seems to be almost like dystopian. negative. Finding the positives and focusing your energy on, possibility instead of the circumstances, and going forward with that energy, instead of focusing on, once again, those circumstances that we're faced with every day. So let's get into it. Okay. So the first one is talking about kind of letting go and letting go of the energy of chasing and shifting into receiving. And kind of what I mean by this is even in my business, where, you know, I have the coaching business, I have the farm, and then I have the skincare business.
Tina 00:10:23 But with the coaching business, I always do feel somewhat, you know, I, I'm always trying to draw people in and let them get to know me and then they can decide whether to work with me. But marketing sometimes feels so chasing to me and, icky and uncomfortable. So I go back and forth. But from being really comfortable with some of the marketing I use for my businesses, specifically the coaching business. The other two businesses seem to come really easy for me. But the coaching business, I think because it's, based really on myself and not a product, that it feels sometimes uncomfortable and like I'm chasing. And so part of my thought process was, how can I change that? And to more like shift it into receiving. So there's always like these, the societal pressure to always be on and hustling and chasing goals. And what's the next thing? it's always about doing, doing, doing and never just allowing yourself to be and feel what's going on around you. And actually, maybe we like a lot of that has to do with the fact that we don't want to feel what we're feeling and we're trying to avoid.
Tina 00:11:35 But, I want you to start thinking about what would happen if you just allowed yourself to feel those feelings and move through them so that you can move on to some better things. So I think that this mindset always almost always leaves to burnout and overwhelm and just disconnection from your true authentic self. You know, because you're not slowing down long enough to listen to your body, to listen to what you want and to know what you want and to like, make the shifts needed. By using that navigation, navigation that's built into your body. So how how can you step into receiving? Like how can you allow yourself more joy in alignment? So the journal prompt that I used was, how can I let go of the energy of always chasing and allow myself into receiving? So like ask yourself that question, how can I let go of the energy of always chasing, chasing and allow myself to receive? So how can I start to just allow myself to be sometimes and not worry about always doing, doing, doing, proving like trying to prove your worth, or trying to earn, or trying to be that person who when someone asks you what are you doing? You're like, oh, I'm just so busy.
Tina 00:12:50 Things are so crazy right now. one of the posts that I just posted, also, and the insiders, the the Patreon group, was, the self-care practice of the week, which I shared an antidote to how you can start to let go of that hustling feeling and start to really tune in to your body. And I, I used a process that I call the 3DS ditch, delegate and do, and you could find that over there. If you want to go visit the Patreon to learn more about that. which is a really good practice to do during the holidays when we all start to get like overwhelmed and over busy. It's really brings things back into perspective of what's like starting to ask yourself questions. What's important? What do I actually enjoy? What can I let go of that doesn't no longer serves me? So when you're doing these journal prompts, I would really suggest that you, like, put some time aside. Whenever I do my journaling prompts for the new moon and the full moon, I always like make it almost like, you know, an event, you know, sit down, relax, maybe make a cup of tea or a glass of wine, light a candle, maybe meditate, relax, whatever I'm going to do to so that I could tune in and really be present and not be like, have the TV on in the background on my like, I turn my phone off so that I could really focus on the task that I'm spending.
Tina 00:14:21 If I'm going to do something, I might as well do it right? Right. I might as well do it 100%. So like if you're going to do the journaling prompts like get into it, do it 100%. So meditate or journal what it would feel like to like, stop chasing and start receiving. Visualize your energy softening and opening up to this. Okay, so that was the first journal prompt okay. And I think this is a really good one to do. I thought it was a really good one for the full moon, because it's about releasing what no longer serves you. But at the same time, I think it's a really good one to do it during the holidays because, being a person that works with a lot of people who are stressed and overwhelmed and dealing with burnout, the holidays are always, always one of the hardest times of the year. And I think that doing this, doing this journal prompt, doing the exercise I talked about within the Patreon the three days is, a super powerful exercise that could really support your nervous system during this time of the year.
Tina 00:15:24 Now the next thing is, how do I move forward calmly, intentionally during disruptive shifts? Okay, so I would definitely call this shift or I don't know if you want to call it a shift, but I feel like we've been going through a shift since the pandemic continuously over and over again. But how can I move forward calmly during disruptive shifts that I would definitely label this a disruptive shift, right? Even even if you are happy about the election. which I just don't know why anyone would be, I can't help but like, emphasize my beliefs on my own podcast. I'm just like a caring, loving person who thinks that everybody, deserves equal rights. You know, I just I feel like everybody should be loved, right? So I can't help but emphasize that. so I think that when we're seeing all this chaos around us, one of the things that I do is I try to lessen the amount of the chaos that is really around me, so I don't watch the news. Okay? I haven't watched the news for years, and I talk about that.
Tina 00:16:31 And if I could just say one thing, that would be life changing. If you watch the news now, just stop watching the news. You're not going to miss anything important. It's the same shit every day. And it's also very it's fear. Like it. It's just like trying to instill fear in all of us. So when we have all this chaos going around and it's globally and we're exposed to like global chaos now because we have, you know, everything, we're all so connected now. And while I think this is more good than bad, I think it's really good that we're so connected with people all over the world. At the same time, we're being affected by all the terrible things that are happen all over the world, too. we also get to see all the heroes and the people who are stepping forward to change those things. So like, there's so many benefits to this. Also, I think the more benefits, I think there's more benefits than, you know, negative effects of this.
Tina 00:17:28 But, these can feel like really destabilizing in your body, but they can also create opportunities for you to reassess what matters most to you. Right? So it's about getting grounded And start focusing on the things that you're aligned with, the things that bring you joy, the things that you feel like are your purpose. Like what is your purpose like how? What do you want your purpose to be? What do you want to offer to your community? Because I do believe that we really need to start focusing on community. during this change, how am I going to move forward in a positive way with intention? So how can I start to focus on possibility? So focus on positive possibilities, and how can I start to focus my energy with intention in that direction? Even if what I hope for seems impossible, why not spend your time with the intention to go in that direction? Why spend your time on demise? Like why waste your time in your energy on just giving in and giving up and to into something that you don't want.
Tina 00:18:45 It makes no sense to me. So what is it that you want? What's the possibilities that you want to see in the world? And how can you start focusing your energy on those positive possibilities that you. So you could start bringing that into your community on that small ground level and that small ground level place where you, you know, your family, your friends, wherever you're working, like bringing that positivity into that place and moving forward to try to create what you want to see in the world. I think that's a more positive way to move forward. So the journal prompt for this one was, how can I move forward in a practical, calm way, supporting living my life and joy while experiencing disruptive shifts and change around me? So I will put these journal prompts in the show notes to so you could read read them also. so you have all the journal prompts there. Actually, maybe I'll, I don't know if there's a way I could attach the worksheet. I'll just put the journal prompts in the show notes.
Tina 00:19:53 So maybe write down like as an action step, maybe write down one small ritual that you can incorporate into your day that will bring you like peace, you know, that will help you move into this state of mind. Having a cup of tea, five minutes of breathwork, gratitude, practice, whatever that might be to like kind of anchor yourself, in the uncertainty of what we're experiencing right now. All right. So next, the next journal prompt was talking about letting go of outdated ways of living. So this is the one where sometimes I feel like I'm crazy because I don't feel very aligned with most of the people around me. I feel like the way that we live our lives right now is so crazy. Like. And when you say it out loud, it sounds crazy. I'm going to work for some other person now. Not everybody is in this situation. I'm being very general right now. But okay, so we right now we go to school. We don't spend that time with our families.
Tina 00:20:59 We spend sometimes eight hours a day out of our home, in school, as children, around a bunch of other people I don't know, everybody I know has been traumatized by school in some way, shape or form. And then we then we're told we're supposed to go to college and spend, you know, all this money and go into debt for the rest of our lives. Pretty much some people don't go into debt. Some people are lucky enough to have their college paid for. But you, you know, then you go into debt and then you're going to get a job where you're going to work. It might not be something you really love. It might be something you like. Some people are very lucky and they have, you know, a career that they really love. But a lot of people end up working in a job that they don't like. They might not even like the people they work with. They're spending eight hours a day. They're away from their families, their children, and they're so exhausted.
Tina 00:21:48 And at this point, the way we're living now, because things are so expensive, it seems impossible to get ahead, especially for younger generations, where housing is so much more expensive than it was for like, my generation and older generations. the cost of living is ridiculous. Food is ridiculous. Everything's ridiculous. And so there's not, you know, you're working your butt off with no end in sight, you know? So we work probably at this point. What the the kids. And when I say kids, you know, like 30 year olds, 25 year olds, you're going to work until you're in your 70s, and then are you going to be able to retire because nobody has retirement anymore? No one, no one has extra money to put in retirement. So basically you're like, you know, I don't know, it just sounds insane, doesn't it? And then you don't have you don't have a lot of time to spend doing the things you love. You know you don't have a lot of time spending with the people you love.
Tina 00:22:46 What are we here for? We're not here for that. It just sounds crazy to me. So I feel like many of the societal norms that we follow, working excessively, prioritizing productivity over well-being are outdated, and they don't apply align with humans. They're just not aligned with humans. And I feel like we kind of like slowly moved into this. But right now it's it's at this breaking point where it's just it's becoming so ridiculous that people are starting to see it and wake up. But it always was ridiculous. And I think the younger generations see that. And I think the reason why they see it is because there's no hope for them at the end. Whereas my generation and older generations had like access to maybe retirement, you know, had access to buying a home, had access to start a family. Right. But these younger generations have access to none of that for the most part, and that's why they are able to see how ridiculous it is, because there's no pay off. Also, they're in debt.
Tina 00:23:46 They're in college debt. If they go to college, they're so deep in debt that they'll never get out. Okay. And so the ridiculous of all of these outdated, outdated ways of living, and I also I understand that a college education can be such a turning point to bring a lot of people out of poverty. so I do see this, but I also see how the return on investment just isn't there anymore. And you look at other countries and you see how they are educating their people for free, you know, and that seems like something that is a, excellent, you know, investment. Obviously, I love learning. I'm continuously learning something new. I'm always taking a new class. Always. But I did not. I spent very little time in college and did not get a college degree. And it used to bother me. But now I just feel like what I'm doing now is more than what most people who have college degrees do, which I see most people that get college degrees, they get their degree and that's it.
Tina 00:24:57 They go get a job. They don't really continue any type of education at all or expanding themselves. Whereas I continuously educate myself, there are some people that do that. They just enjoy it. I just enjoy it. And so I feel like, education should be a lifelong process, not just for years of your life. So how do you identify and release habits or systems that no longer serve you, or the community that you live in that are so entrenched, entrenched in society? They're so like ingrained when you when you go against the norm, people look at you like, that's that's what I meant said at the beginning of this. I feel crazy sometimes because nobody agrees with me. Now I know there are some people who agree with me, and you might be listening to me right now and saying, you're just crazy. That's crazy. You know, I, I don't really believe in heterosexual marriage because I feel like it really suppresses the woman. the way it's set up now, I feel like that's something that could change, but I don't see the purpose of actually getting legally married anymore.
Tina 00:26:02 I just don't understand it. I don't see the benefit to it. I just don't see any benefit. I barely see a benefit in being in a relationship with a man at this point, like so. It's like my beliefs are very strong and very different from a lot of people. And so, I have nothing against men. I love some men. I'm glad to be friends with men. I might even be in a relationship with a man at some point, but I'm unwilling to, Pretend that I'm happy in a relationship. Just to be in a relationship with a man like it has to be a really good partnership, relationship, friendship, all of those things. Otherwise, I'm not going to waste my time because I'm really happy being alone, very happy. And so like a lot of my beliefs are just different and beyond what society expects of us. And I think it's difficult for people to step outside of that, especially when you have a very close knit family. that puts a lot of pressure on you.
Tina 00:27:08 So this could be really hard to step out of these ways. So the general prompt is, how can I let go of old ways of doing things in this world that are outdated and don't serve me and society as a whole? And this could just be a mindset shift. It doesn't have to always be like an action. It could just be a mindset shift. And like, I'm willing to see things differently. How could this look differently? How can I create something different, which is what I've been trying to do in my business all along. Like I don't want to work for somebody. I want to do something I'm really passionate about, and I want it to be fun. And I don't want to do just one thing. I want to do a million different things, and that's what I do. I just do it. And it may seem crazy or I don't know what it seems like. I don't really care as long as I'm happy and I'm, you know, surviving, making a making a living, doing something I'm passionate about.
Tina 00:27:59 And I feel safe and secure. So as long as I'm doing all those things, I'm happy. I don't need to conquer the world. I don't need to be a billionaire. I don't need to do any of those things. I just want to be happy. And I want to be able to do the things that I want to do, which I believe most people like, even though we're all so different and we all come from all these different backgrounds, I feel like we all kind of want the same thing. We want to be happy. We want to be able to take care of our families. We want to be feel safe and secure, and we want to have fun. Right? I feel like basically we we really all want the same things. So how can I let go of the old ways of doing things in this world that are outdated and don't serve me and society as a whole? So maybe identify one outdated habit or belief that you hold, like needing to work overtime to feel worthy, or needing to put in extra in order to be identified as someone valuable in your company or whatever it is, and then commit to like releasing it.
Tina 00:29:00 Commit to at least shifting the mindset and being open to new ways of thinking. Replace it with an action that aligns with your joy and well-being. Instead of working overtime, I'm going to come home and spend time with my kids, right? Instead of doing these things, I'm going to instead of saying, I'm going to work overtime so I could buy extra presents at Christmas for my kids. Say something like, I'm gonna come home and spend time with my kids. Because deep down inside, we all know that's what the kids really want. Rather than toys or video games or whatever it is, right? Okay. I'm going to move on from that. So you don't think I'm totally crazy? So the next thing is being present with yourself to identify joy and comfort. So it's I feel like it's really important in order to make these shifts, to be present with yourself, recognizing so that you can recognize what brings you happiness and peace. A lot of us are so busy, so disconnected, that we don't even know what we want.
Tina 00:29:59 Busyness can block us from connecting to the things and people we love. And once again, I do believe busyness, and I'm speaking for myself along with what I see in other people. Busyness can be just a way to avoid feeling a certain way, you know? And so busyness for me, I was raised to believe like, the harder we work, that we have to work hard to have success. That I was just I was raised that way, and I, I don't necessarily think that it was like some hugely negative thing. It was the generation that I was raised by. But I also believe that it's not true, right? It's not true that you have to work hard to be successful. And so, you know, I try to stay busy all the time. This is something I struggle with in order to prove that I'm worthy of being successful. And so how can I just know that I'm worthy of success without having to overwork myself? Right? And this is something I'm always struggling with because I had the stroke.
Tina 00:31:02 And so I'm always practicing self-care and trying to be aware of this and be present with myself. But it's not something that comes naturally to me because of the way I was raised. So the journal prompt for this one is, how can I be more present with myself? So I know when I'm experiencing what brings me joy, peace, and comfort in my life? How can you slow down enough to pay attention to the things that truly make you happy? So I guess the action step for this one. I don't have a lot to say about this. I think we all know who we are. And, I'm calling out all the people who do this, including myself. I continuously have to call myself out on this. I recently listened to a podcast by Mel Robbins, her most recent episode, I think it's called, something about stressing yourself out. Oh, I can't remember the title. I didn't really plan on mentioning it. I'm going to try to find it and I'll put it in the show notes anyway, it really talks about the avoidance behavior of the busyness, and I felt so called out when I listen to this episode.
Tina 00:32:06 It was such a good episode, so I'll definitely link it in the show notes, but dedicate 15 minutes to an activity that brings you joy, like going for a walk, reading, or listen. 15 minutes isn't long. We all have 15 minutes, and if you say you don't have 15 minutes, then you probably need to do this more than anyone else and then pay attention to how it feels in your body and in your mind, and then think about how cool it would be if you could spend at least 90% of your time in that mindset, in that feeling, because it's possible you can shift over to that. I know it's possible because I do it. I don't do it 100% of the time, but I hit it a lot. And when I'm hitting hitting it, it feels too good to be true. It's an amazing feeling, and I and my main focus moving forward is always, how can I experience that more and more and more and more until that's all I'm experiencing. And I think that's possible to a lot of people might not think that's possible, but I do.
Tina 00:33:05 The next one is trusting, trusting, and honoring the rhythms of your body. So this is so important okay. So society often demands that we ignore a body's natural rhythms in favor of productivity. And I would think I'm going to share something with you. All of my kids worked or are working in the service industry. And one of the things and if you've worked in the service industry, you can confirm this. That I find appalling. Is that, like, waiters, waitresses, bartenders, whatever. They don't, they don't have time to pee. They don't even have time to pee or eat. Like, by the time they get out of work, they've held their pee in for, like, the entire day. They haven't eaten. They're about to pass out there. They're drinking cans and cans of Red bull to get by to keep going. We're working double shifts this way. It's absolutely ridiculous. And once you continuously send that message to your body that it's not important, the feelings that you're feeling in your body are not important.
Tina 00:34:07 You ignore those. It kind of has a negative side effect on your self-worth. And so it's really bad for you to do this not just like physically, but mentally. It's bad for you to do this. But the way our society is set up is that this is expected. This is expected. It's hard to work around it. It's expected. So, that's just like one small example of how we do this. We do this. You know, I did it for years where I just kept working myself to death, raising my kids and doing all the things, not asking for help. until I crashed and burned and had the stroke. Right. why did I do that? Why was I ignoring my body? And I got to the point where I ignored my body so much that I forgot what what my body was trying to tell me, and I didn't recognize when I was tired. I didn't recognize when I was sick, even. Which is crazy, right? But that's what happens. So honor, how can you honor your energy cycles and allowing rest when needed? When you do this, it creates harmony in your and sustainability in your body.
Tina 00:35:11 So the journal prompt is how can I trust the rhythms of my body? How can I tune into those and learn to trust those as information, you know, education, information about what I need and honor those instead of what is expected of me in society. How can you start to make that shift? And as I stated before, like with the working in a like the service industry, you're expected to do this. That's where the bar is set. Right? So when you go against this at your, you know, your place of employment, this is really difficult thing to do. And that's why when I said at the beginning of this podcast, I don't expect everyone to quit their job or get fired or whatever, but sometimes the first shift that you need to make is a mindset shift. You know, maybe starting small and just voicing the fact that you have to pee and go to the bathroom while you're working, whether your manager likes it or not. Right. so an action step would be identify one way your body is asking for care right now.
Tina 00:36:20 Do you need sleep? Do you need movement? Do you need nourishment and give yourself permission to honor that need today? So with the recent events going on, I have been there's been so many different emotions that I experience on a daily basis, like usually before when I'm not experiencing so much disruption, you know, in the world, personal disruption, I should say, because there's a lot of disruption around the world, but something that affects me very personally. You know, maybe I'll have a day where I'm really happy having a great day. Maybe I'll have a day where I'm just like, you know, grumpy or whatever. But like, lately, it's been like, everything in the in one day, you know, I'm sad, I'm happy, I'm crying, I'm laughing. I'm like, violent, angry, you know, like, everything in one day. So, like, how can I honor all those different things and not seem like, completely insane? And so the one thing that worked for me is spending time doing the things that really, truly bring me joy.
Tina 00:37:21 And I decided one of the decisions I made, one of the shifts I decided to make, was to combine all my businesses and share them all at once together. you know, so like usually I share the podcast on like my my soul line self-care Instagram, but now on all of my Instagram accounts. So I have, you know, Tina Stinson, coach then I have solo line self-care and then I have South Meadow Farm and I have soul aligned infusions. But I didn't combine all those accounts. What I did was everything I post on one account, I post on all the other ones. So if you follow me at Tina Stinson coach, which is like my coaching business, you're going to see my posts for soul aligned self-care, which is my skin. I mean, soul aligned infusions, which is my skincare business, and I'm just sharing everything with you because I'm what I'm essentially sharing with you is how I'm living my life in order to move forward and keep myself happy and sane. Right. And so I was like, I'm just going to share with people everything I do so that I can share what's working for me.
Tina 00:38:30 It might be different for you, but I'm going to share. I'm going to be the example that I want to be and share what's working for me right in this moment, and that is to focus on the things that truly let me connect with my my purpose and that feel completely aligned right now. And so I'm paying attention to how my body feels. And if it feels gross, I'm not doing it, even if it's something I did every single day for the past 4 or 5 years, I'm not doing it if it doesn't feel good, and I'm just focusing on what feels good right now. And I think that so far I could tell everybody that it's working. So just identify one way your body is asking for care right now. Pay attention to how you're feeling. You know, yesterday, yesterday afternoon I, I, I'm not I don't work a lot on Mondays. I try to take the day off, but sometimes I do a little bit of work. so I did do a little bit of work.
Tina 00:39:26 I created a meditation yesterday, and in the afternoon I was exhausted. Even though I slept great, I went for a run that morning. I ran like four miles. I haven't been running a lot lately, so I think that's why I was tired. So I laid down in the middle of the day and I did a yoga nidra meditation, which is like deep rest meditation. Not something I normally do, but I can't tell you how good it felt. I honored my body and the way I felt in that moment. It was only a 25 minute meditation, which is really long for me, but 25 minutes out of my day and I felt refreshed and better because I honored my body. So that's what I'm talking about. Even if it's just five minutes to do some deep breathing, just do something that's going to honor the way you feel. Okay, the next one is shifting your mindset towards joy and intention. Okay, so when we focus on what's wrong that keeps you stuck in the problem, right? There's a lot of problems right now.
Tina 00:40:24 There's a lot of issues. And if we focus on it, that's why I say don't focus on the circumstance. Focus on the possibility. What's the possibility? What do you want the possibility to be? Define that for yourself because everybody's going to be different. And we're all here during this time period for a reason. So whatever the possibility you can imagine for yourself and the world and your community, that's what you're meant to move towards. And you bringing that specific peace into the world right now is your purpose, right? So don't worry about what everybody else believes is possible. Some people might not. They might believe nothing is possible and they've given up. But if you believe whatever you believe to be possible, if you focus your intention on that, you're going to bring that into the world. You're going to bring a piece of that into the world, and that'll help save the people who have no hope right now, you know? And so I feel like, what better, more positive, more way to resist, this disruptive world we're living in, then to focus on your version of that possibility.
Tina 00:41:35 So how can you align your intentions with this? How can you align your intentions with joy that creates this ripple effect of positivity for yourself, your family, and your community? Right. So maybe write an intention or a statement starting with today I choose to focus on. So maybe when you wake up in the morning, you go into the bathroom, you look in the mirror and you're like, today I choose to focus on. And so my mantra, so to speak, I always have some kind of an intention when I do a yoga practice or even a yoga nidra practice. And it is I'm following joy. That's it. Super simple. It doesn't have to be complicated. I'm following joy. How do how do I want to follow Joy and then follow that with 2 to 3 things that bring you, bring you into that. So what has been making me happy? My skincare business, the farm, doing more things like that, focusing on things like, I redesigned the Soul Alliance, self-care insiders that I keep talking about on here today, the Patreon group.
Tina 00:42:43 I also have a membership called the Soul Alliance Self-care circle, which I love focusing on. I love I share a different self-care practice and healing somatic healing practices in there. so it's like, I really love doing that work. I love doing it. So that's where I love the podcast. I love hanging out with you guys. That's what I'm focusing on, and that's bringing my special piece of the possibility of what I want to bring into the world. That's bringing my special peace. That's my purpose, that's what I'm bringing in right now. I'm sharing that with you So the next thing is the power of community and shared intentions. So isolation makes it harder to shift into a joyful, intentionally life. So building and participating in a community reinforces positive change. Now, before you even say I just don't I don't have a community. You can create a community in so many different ways. And one of the reasons I know this is because where I live, there are no people and there's a there are the people that are here.
Tina 00:43:49 I really I do not share common values with. And so, I have to can I just pat myself on the back on how poetic that sounded like it didn't sound angry or anything. So I just want to, like, just pat myself on the back. Maybe it doesn't count if I pat myself on the back, but that just came out. I didn't plan on saying that. So anyway, so community is hard for me. And so my kids that live in all these different places kind of far away from me. they're my community, so I make it an intention to connect with them. So, you know, a lot of times on a daily basis, at least a weekly basis to, to make sure that I know what's going on in their lives. And I know what's, you know, I just stay connected with them. Also, there's online communities I consider, you know, this podcast, a community, a part of my community. There's so many different ways to create community.
Tina 00:44:47 So even if you're living in the middle of nowhere like me, and you don't have a lot of people around that you are aligned with, you can still create community in your life. You could still, you know, make show these intentions that you have these these intentions that you have to bring in your version, your definition of possibility into the world. So share your thoughts on how community strengthens resilience and brings joy. Share your thoughts with whoever's around you. Don't be afraid. This is the time to really step out and share that possibility with others. You know, write a blog if you have to start a podcast. Just share it with friends. Connect with family more. The people that fill you up, the people that build you up, whoever that might be. I just also just want to define family. Like family are the people that support you, that love you, that builds you up. Doesn't necessarily mean that their blood relatives, relatives or relatives, families, family. You define your family.
Tina 00:45:54 You create your family. Keep that in mind. Don't get down on yourself if you're not connected to your family at all, especially during this time where a lot of people are feeling disconnected from their families. Start focusing on the people that support you and make them your family, because those are your true family members. So action step. Reach out to one person who inspires or uplifts you and share your intentions for living a more aligned life. Consider joining or creating a group, or doing some of the things I talked about that that focus on mutual support in some way, shape or form. Okay, so step off the hamster wheel, show up for yourself. Show up. Remember, start thinking about not the circumstance that we're all in, but the possibility of what we want to create. Focus on bringing. Bring what brings you joy. Follow the joy like. Create your own mantra. Steal mine. If you want to like, follow the joy. That's. I just say that to myself every day.
Tina 00:46:59 Follow the joy. What's going to bring me joy right now might be different every day. Embracing your communities. Create community. Create an aligned community. So spend time with these journal prompts. I hope you like them as much as I did. I really enjoyed doing them. As I said, it was very empowering to me, to I felt like I was kind of taking control instead of feeling so like lost and out of control. So spend time over the next few days to do these, and then take some small steps toward a joyful, more intentional life. so if you want to share with me, definitely follow me on one of those social media channels that I, I talked about, I will put actually, I'll put all of them in the show notes. I don't usually share the farm and the skincare business on here, but I would love to have you join me on those accounts also, and just share your insights with me about these journal prompts. And if you want to check out the Patreon, if you want to support the podcast, you want to support me, then you could head over and join me on the Patreon.
Tina 00:48:06 Like I said, you could follow me for free over there, or you could join in one of the the tiers. There's many of them that you could join in. So, okay. Love you till next week by.
