Tina (00:00:00) - Every one of us has those points in of transition in our lives. Sometimes we move through them with no problem. It's not usually enjoyable, but we keep moving forward. So it's at some point it's over. Then we have those times where we know we're in a transition period, but we're just not moving forward. We're stuck and it's so frustrating. If that's you, then definitely join me today because today I'm going to give you five actions that you can take to get unstuck and get things moving again. Let's get into it. You're listening to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast. I'm your host, Tina Stinson, and I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world. Now I'm laying it all out the deep level self-care practices and mindset shifts that I needed that kept me healthy, balanced, and thriving. Join me in this intimate space as we explore healing, resilience, and the soul's journey to alignment. This is where real conversations about deep level self-care happen. Let's get into it.
Tina (00:01:18) - Hey guys, welcome back to the Soul Aligned Self-care podcast. And if you're new here, welcome. Thanks for joining me today. We're talking about five actions you could take to get unstuck in your life when you're in those points of transition, but you're just not moving forward. It's so frustrating, and I've totally been there before, and these are some of the things that I use with myself and with some of my clients to help get unstuck. So, as I said, I've definitely been there before. More than once. We go through so many transitions in our life, right? And I have a few things I do to push myself up and start to move forward. But first of all, why do we even get stuck? so this can be many different reasons for everyone, but a lot of times it's because we're in a state of stress or fight or flight or freeze, hence the freeze part. Also, it might be just the fear of the unknown and your own body and brain not letting you leave your comfort zone.
Tina (00:02:17) - After all, it's your brain's job to keep you alive. It's not a job. It's not the brain's job to keep you happy and comfortable. Just alive. Right? So when we're in. Fight. Fight or flight. Freeze! Fight. flight or freeze. It's because we've experienced something very stressful or traumatic. And your your brain goes into like this protection mode. As I said, it's your brain's job to keep you safe and alive, even if it's not good for you, even if you're not going to thrive there as long as you're alive and safe. That's all that matters. And so the brain will stay with old patterns because, hey, they've worked before and you've you've stayed alive. And also, it takes your body less energy to stay in those old patterns. They become very habitual. And they're basically you're just basically going through the motions. So when your brain keeps you in that comfort zone, it's the same thing over and over again. Anything different exciting will be viewed as a threat or unsafe, and it'll do anything to keep you where it knows you will be safe and alive.
Tina (00:03:21) - Your brain doesn't want you to thrive and live life fully. It doesn't have anything against that. It's just doing its job. I just want you to be alive. So this is sometimes why we get stuck in those old patterns and we don't move forward, and we don't even realize it because it's we do it on such a subconscious level. And that brings me to the first step. So we're going to go right into the steps of things to do the five actions that you can take to get unstuck. And the first one is to start to heal your nervous system, get yourself out of fight or flight and freeze and into rest and reset. Some people call it rest and digest, but we're not talking about nutrition here. We're talking about moving forward. So rest and reset. That's what I'm going to call it. And we do this by reducing the stresses in our lives. And also and by using somatic healing practices like breathwork, one of my favorites. And I talk about breathwork a lot. And there's I have many episodes on breathwork.
Tina (00:04:20) - I've had breath facilitators, breathwork facilitators on the podcast a couple of different times, and so I'll be sure to share some of those episodes in the show notes, because it's breathwork is so powerful. And of course, meditation, we all know that. And I'm a certified meditation instructor. I create meditations for aura and an inside of all of my programs, I do meditations, I love doing it. And if you would have told me that, you know, a few years ago, I would have laughed because doing meditations was so difficult for me and it's still not the easiest thing for me to do to sit still. But there are certain ones I know myself now. I know the ones that work for me, and that's all you have to do. You have to get to know the ones that work for you. Yoga is so powerful. I do yoga at least four times a week, sometimes more. It really helps in so many different ways. And once you start learning about not just the physical practice of yoga, but the lifestyle and embodying that lifestyle? It really embodies a lifestyle with less stress and anxiety.
Tina (00:05:25) - So any type of movement will really help you reduce stress and anxiety. I shouldn't say any type, because there's certain types that can like kind of heighten that fight or flight, and that's when you're doing like really, really high intensity workouts. So if you're in a pretty bad place where you're experiencing a lot of stress and anxiety, high intensity workouts aren't your friend. At this point in time. It's more about the yoga and going for a walk in nature, and all of these things are very beneficial to your body. Tai chi chi gong. There's a lot of different things that you could do. Also, the somatic practice of shaking is amazing at resetting your body and releasing those that trauma in your body that's stuck in your body and that stress and that that that anxious feeling. It's just fantastic. And you don't have to, like, just sit there and shake like a freak. You could like, shake like a freak while you're listening to your favorite song. You could dance like a crazy person in your living room to like a song that makes you happy.
Tina (00:06:24) - And that's going to be so healing for you. EFT tapping is another one. I've had someone on the podcast also. To actually two people, but one of those episodes hasn't been released yet. So I've had a couple of interviews with EFT tapping practitioners, and that's another amazing practice to help you heal. But there's so many more like, I could go on forever and ever, and it's really about trying to figure out the one that works for you best. now, breathwork was the one that works for me best. And then I would second like yoga and then meditation and then movement. I mean, I don't know, I love all of them. All my favorites I mentioned here. But when we start to reduce stress and heal and support our nervous, sorry nervous system. Okay. And notice how I don't just say heal, I say support because it's not just about healing the nervous system and then feeling better and then stopping there. It's about supporting your nervous system, because we're always going to have a life filled with the ups and downs, and there's always going to be stress and anxiety coming in and out of our lives.
Tina (00:07:30) - And we need to make ourselves more resilient to be able to handle those things in a more positive way. And so by practicing these things and changing your lifestyle. So this is another lifestyle change. So it's just like eating a healthy diet and exercising. It's a practice. It's a lifestyle. It's not something you it's not a one and done kind of a deal. It's something you keep doing to stay healthy. When we do that, we have the capacity and resilience for change. Okay. So our body right now, if we're stuck it does not have the capacity or the resilience for change. So we're going to start healing our nervous system. So after this I find the next step to to to do is to start to mix things up like a lot. Okay. So what comes to my mind is the saying, what got you here won't get you where you want to go next. I don't know, I'm probably messing that up, but you know what I mean is something like that. So we're stuck in old patterns and we don't know how to move forward.
Tina (00:08:27) - We just. We have no clue. We've tried different things, but nothing seems to be working. And we're at a loss here. So what I want you to do is start changing up all the small things in your life to let your brain know, hey, I think she's safe and ready to try new things. It's okay. Trying new, exciting things is not as bad as I thought it would be. So it's okay. For example, like just doing things a little bit differently, like brushing your teeth with the opposite hand that you normally use, maybe having like breakfast for dinner and dinner for breakfast, maybe driving a different way to work or to go shopping, maybe changing your morning or your bedtime routine. Just change everything up. Maybe switch your day around. Sometimes I'll like I'll do yoga in the morning instead of at night. Like a lot of times I'll do yoga before dinner. But now, right now, it feels good for me to do yoga in the morning, so I'm just changing it up a little bit.
Tina (00:09:20) - once you start making changes and you move through them successfully, then you'll know that your and your brain will know that it's safe to come out of that comfort zone. It's it's safe for you to start trying new things. So this is almost just like a little push. It's just a little push to get you out of that comfort zone. It's a little push to get you out of those. Those, you know, you're just, like, going through the motions. You know, those those old patterns. You'll you'll automatically start to think of different things that you could do in your life to move forward at a deeper level, because you'll be open and ready for it. So this just kind of primes the movement. The next thing I want you to do is I want you to follow your happy. So this part's really simple because it's, you know, it's always a lot of fun. Surprisingly, though, as human beings, we don't always think life can be fun and enjoyable. Some of us think that everything has to be hard first before we have.
Tina (00:10:19) - We have to work ourselves to death, or we have to do all this work. And in order to allow ourselves to have the pleasure of being happy or enjoying something. And that's just not true. And I can't even stress that you're allowed. Things are allowed to be easy. Things are allowed to be happy. You're allowed to experience joy without working really hard. So as I said, this is a big lie that you've been told by society or by the powers of be that want you to think that you have to work, work, work, work. You know, most of the time you're working for the people who are creating these rules in the first place. So it's a little tricky. I don't even want to get into that. That would be a whole podcast episode, but I want you to start to, like, reset the mindset that things have to be hard before you can experience joy and you have to work hard, or you have to have some kind of a struggle. You have to put in the work first.
Tina (00:11:14) - No things are allowed to be easy things. You're allowed to experience joy for no freaking reason at all. So the truth is, life just gets to be easy as long as you believe it and you learn to follow what makes you happy every day. That's right, I said it. Do things you enjoy every day. Like saying that out loud. A lot of people would be like, you know, you know, she's sure has those rose colored glasses on thinking she's going to have fun every single day. Well, yeah, I do, and I believe it, and I do. I actually do have fun every day because I make sure I do. So you have to pay attention and be aware of the things in your life that truly make you happy, like they make you feel like you're in a state of flow. You don't notice that time is passing when you're doing them. You're in such a blissful state that you're just enjoying it. And sometimes, sometimes this is when you're working like so I go into that state of flow when I'm creating stuff like, for my programs and my business.
Tina (00:12:16) - I love doing that. When I'm creating meditations, when I'm in creation mode, I am happy. So where is your happy? Okay. Where is the place where time just seems to freeze and not pass when you're doing this thing? So like me, it's like gardening and running. Oh how I love these moments so much in my life. I cherish them and I always ask myself that question, and I dare you to do the same thing. And I say to myself, why can't it be like this all the time? Why can't every freaking day feel like Sunday? How can I bring more of the way I feel on a Sunday? No, I don't get the the Monday panic attacks like a lot of people because I work for myself, but I still have a lot of work on Monday. Monday is a busy day for me because I do a lot of the work that I create for my clients on Mondays. Okay, I do the I write the blog, I get things ready for the podcast.
Tina (00:13:10) - So Monday is a workday. But I love Sundays because Sunday I always make such a like an easy day and I. I don't make myself do anything. If I don't feel like working out, I don't work out if I want to eat chocolate cake all day, I eat chocolate cake all day. It's like that day where I'm just allowed to just be, you know, we all need those moments. And I'm like, how can I just bring more of this into every day? So every day feels like a weekend. How can I do this? And it might not be perfect, but I can do that. So pay attention and be aware of those things that truly make you happy and in flow, and start adding them into your every day. The key is to keep doing these things more and more and more until you're just always happy. Right. And you might say that's impossible, but now you can be happy the majority of the time. And things can be easy. Things get to be easy.
Tina (00:14:01) - Of course, we all have responsibilities in our lives, things that we have to do. But when you have so much joy and happiness in your life, these responsibilities seem much lighter on you. They weigh much lighter. Now the next thing is something everybody knows, but I'm going to talk about it anyway. And that is gratitude. This always seems to be the answer for everything, right? Just just practice gratitude. Everything. You're going to be abundant when you practice gratitude, you could forgive. When you practice gratitude, you feel better. You heal when you practice gratitude. And that's because it works. It actually does work. And there's a lot of different ways you could practice gratitude. So I recently listened to Julia Louis-Dreyfus podcast, what is it called, smarter than me? Something like that. Oh, my God, I can't believe I forgot what it was called, but she interviewed Julie Andrews. Wiser than me. That's it. Wiser than me. I would highly recommend it. It's a great podcast.
Tina (00:14:59) - So she interviewed Julie Andrews. At least that's the one I was listening to. And you should give it a lesson. I love Julie Andrews. It was so good. and one of the things that, Julia talked about is that Julie Andrews always talks about how lucky she is, and she states it out loud even when something kind of shitty is happening. Right. So, for example, I'm so lucky we're having thunderstorms today, even though I wanted to go to the beach. Whatever. Like so. I'm so lucky. I'm just the luckiest girl in the world. I'm so I'm so grateful that I have all these things in my life. And if you think about it, there will be a reason. For example, you know, my flowers are getting watered. Okay, I stayed in. I was able to watch old movies with a friend or whatever it is. We're all lucky as long as we see it that way. And I've definitely know people that do this on a regular basis. And that was also some kind of a fad on TikTok at some point.
Tina (00:15:52) - I'm the luckiest girl in the world or something like that. But it's, it's, it's a, it's a thing because it actually works. So we can all see things this way. just start doing it. And if you get stuck on something like message me, you know, if you can't find the positive and something, just message me and I'll help you find the magic in most situations. But the key here is to be grateful for all that you have, even if it's just a thunderstorm, and start focusing on what you don't have. Because what we focus on expands and focus. So focus on the good. So to bring more good into your life and, I'm, I am if Julie Andrews does it, I'm going to do it too, because I think she's fantastic. So I'm the luckiest girl in the world. I'm so lucky. Everything that happens to me is I'm just so lucky of all the things that ever happened to me. Okay, so I'm just going to start saying that all the time.
Tina (00:16:42) - So if you hear me saying that, that's why now, the next thing I want you to do is something I also talk about a lot on the podcast. And that's because also it's powerful and it works and it's easy and it's free. I love how like all these things are free. Journaling journaling. Journal the shit out of everything. And if you tried it and you're like, I don't like it, I want you to try it again, okay? Journal. When you have a decision to make, Journal when you feel sad or mad or happy or whatever you're feeling. Journal when you feel lost. Journal when you have a great idea, just journal. And there's different ways you could do this. You could just it's just like the power is. Journaling is like having a conversation with like, your subconscious or your higher self. It's like you're having this back and forth conversation, or it's like your best friend who knows you inside and out and calls you out when you're being an ass, right? That's my friend Janet.
Tina (00:17:38) - Shout out to my friend Janet. I love shouting out to her because I know she listens. So I just wanted to say hi to her. I love you, but journaling is therapy. It's a warm hug, so I know I make it sound like a miracle worker because, well, it kind of is. So, Something I can't stress enough, though, is that I want you to give yourself time to get into some kind of a groove with your journal, find what works for you. You know, sometimes it's just free writing. Whatever you feel, you just need to get something off of your chest, right? Sometimes it's writing a story of your life. Maybe someday you're going to turn this into a book, right? sometimes it's using journal prompts. I love using journal prompts because it when I use somebody else's journal prompts, it like, makes me thinking a different way. Like I have my own journal prompts, but I love using other people's journal prompts because they think differently than me and they know different things.
Tina (00:18:32) - And so it's like it brings up different things in my mind. And so I love using journal prompts but see what feels good for you. It could be just making a list everyday of the things that you're grateful for, or making a list of different ideas that you have for your business, or different things that you want to do in your life, or different things that bring you joy. That could be all you do is just making lists, right? So do what works for you. But to get started, I'll give you a journal prompt, for this so that you can work with it. So the journal prompt for today, is if you had no limitations in your life. Okay, this is hard. It's hard to let go of all the limitations that we think we have. Okay. And some of them are very real limitations that are hard to get past. But doing this type of exercise help you helps you get past them. But I want you to really imagine no limitations in your life.
Tina (00:19:27) - So no limitations as far as like money. no limitations as far as, like social judgment or pressures to act or be or look a certain way. No family pressures. no age limitations, no physical limitations, no knowledge limitations, no limitations. So if you had no limitations in your life, what would you be doing right now in your life right now? And then also, what would you be doing in the next year? I want you to write all about it in your journal. So just, just go crazy, think big and have fun with it. Because once you start expanding like this and start thinking big like this, it starts to bring more things into your life because your brain automatically will start looking for more things that you give attention to. Does that make sense? What we focus on expands once again. So, ask yourself how after you write that all out, then I want you to ask yourself, how can I bring some of this magic into my life right now? In little ways, you know, just like adding those little joys into your life, how could you add some of this magic that you just came up with into your life right now? Test it out.
Tina (00:20:42) - Even if you think it's impossible, why not test it out? What do you have to lose? What the heck do you have to lose? Who cares what anybody thinks? Who cares what you look like? Who really cares? Nobody's really paying attention. Everybody's so worried about themselves that they're not really paying any attention to us. Right? Everybody thinks everybody's looking at us all the time. They're looking at what we're wearing, what we look like that day, how much, how much we weigh the things that we're doing. No, nobody cares because they're so worried about themselves. They're so preoccupied with that. They're not paying attention to you. And if somebody ever gives you some hate, then you have to like, actually kind of give send them some love. Because if they're that focused on something that that you're doing, then they're not focusing on some of the things that they could do for themselves to make themselves feel better instead of trying to make you feel worse. Right. So how can you bring some of this magic into your life? So I'll leave you with that.
Tina (00:21:42) - And if you're feeling it messaged me, I don't know, you could either. You could follow me on my Patreon and join the soul aligned Self-care insiders. That's my group that I have for Soul Line self-care, and you get a self-care message every week. We pull a card. Every week we get weekly meditations to help you relieve some of that stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. So you could join me there. You could follow me for free there. If you want, you can message me there. You could also find me on Instagram at Tina Stinson coach. All that stuff will be in the show notes, so if you're looking for that along with some of the podcast, other podcasts I talked about, and let me know what you're going to be doing in your life. Let me know how you what kind of magic you're adding. I love hearing other people's magic because it gives me ideas to add things into my life. I'm quite aware that I say the word ideas weird. I don't know why I've been teased about my whole life, and it's really hard for me to change it.
Tina (00:22:41) - And why should I? Because it's me, okay? So also, if you want to hang out with me more, then you could also come be a part of the soul aligned self-care circle. This is a paid membership that I have. I'll put the link also in the show notes. It's it's brand new and I'm very excited about it. You'll get like weekly journal prompts, affirmations, you'll get, meditations. You get a weekly self-care practice, and you get a weekly coaching call with me to really dive deep into deep level self-care, mindset shifts, and self-love and self-worth exercises. So all of that stuff's going to be in the show notes, and I would love to hang out with you, whether it's on Instagram or in the soul line, self-care insiders or the soul aligned self-care circle. Wherever you want to join me, I'd love to hang out with you. But most of all, I like. I love that you guys are hanging out with me here on the podcast, but I do love connecting with you and hearing from you, so be sure to reach out and let me know what your magic is.
Tina (00:23:48) - Okay, I'll see you guys next week. I love you, bye.
